tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8661838860274544552024-03-08T06:45:28.037-08:00Low-Self-Esteem-SolutionsOur society in my opinion is great at creating people with low self esteem. The good news is there are solutions and we have some great self improvement hypnosis cds. The real trick is learning to listen to your own self talk and change. Do the exerecises here and learn how.Dr YJChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15934626372989345861noreply@blogger.comBlogger82125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866183886027454455.post-11383018793820769852011-04-11T12:07:00.000-07:002011-04-11T12:08:07.230-07:00Confessions Of A Seduction GuruDear Speed Seduction® Student,<br /><br /><br />Just a short while ago I had an unusually negative experience which requires me to confess.<br /><br />Actually, I've been building to this negative experience for days, without consciously realizing.<br /><br />You see, as I have preached time and again, you have to daily practice the attitudes, beliefs, energy and yes (I know this sounds "New Age") patterns of breathing that give you the confidence and charisma to attract women, anytime, anywhere, often without evening opening your mouth first!<br /><br />But, the past week, I've been so-fired up, attending to some great new ideas for my business that I have not been practicing what I preach.<br /><br />Yes, your good Old Guru of Poon deserves a well placed kick in his ass for being a hypocrite and NOT practicing.<br /><br />Well, today I got that kick.<br /><br />You see, when I got up today, I just wasn't feeling "right". I was tired, cranky, not in touch with my usual energy, and as a result, when I was "sarging" this morning, having my daily Starbucks coffee<br /><br />Every Sarge Fell Flat!<br /><br />Yes, I confess. Even your Guru is a human and has to practice, all the time, to stay in the best state of mind.<br /><br />And your state of mind; your energy, beliefs and the attitude your project are very important.<br /><br />They are like the conductive medium; the wire if you will-across which you send the electricity of your spoken words.<br /><br />So don't be a goof like me. Practice what I teach you, daily. Do the breathing, the meditation, and the visualizations daily(and take care of your body with some good exercise too) and you will see daily results that will astonish you.<br /><br />And if you want to find out more about how to radiate a confidence, charisma and energy that has women approaching you, just go right here:<br /><br />http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj180.asp<br /><br /><br />You'll learn a quick, ten minute, daily breathing/energy/visualizing ritual that will make you a true winner with women. And don't be a lazy, good-for-nuthin' ass like your Guru sometimes is.<br /><br />GET OUT THERE AND DO IT!<br /><br />Piece and peace,<br /><br />RJ<br /><br />P.S. If you already radiate with confidence and just want some amazing ways to meet women, anytime, anywhere, get my most current popular product that the students are raving about-my Gold Walk Up DVD.<br /><br />Just go here:<br /><br />http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj185.asp<br /><br /><br />This newsletter, and all of its contents are <br />copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this <br />newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in <br />any format, without prior consent, provided <br />all content, including all links, are kept <br />intact, proper credit for authorship is given, <br />and the newsletter is given for free, <br />without charge.Dr YJChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15934626372989345861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866183886027454455.post-4353869378198057412011-03-28T11:58:00.000-07:002011-03-28T11:59:39.338-07:00Going For The First KissDear Speed Seduction® Student,<br /><br />Here is an important question I got the other day via email. (By the way, feel free to write me with your questions and testimonials!)<br /><br />"Hi Guys<br /><br />It's midnight on a rainy Monday in old London Town. I've just got back in from an evening out with a very attractive young lady and I'm a bit frustrated.<br /><br />I met Cath last year on holiday. When we first met we quite fancied each other, but by the end of the holiday, for various reasons, we weren't seeing eye to eye. Relationship at this point was purely platonic.<br /><br />We met up again and I ran several patterns from the Home Study Course(http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp<br /><br />At several points when she was in trance I leaned in and she responded very favorably by smiling and leaning in to me.<br /><br />At the end of the evening I walked her back to her car, gave her a hug and a kiss on the cheek and we agreed to meet again.<br /><br />All well and good? If that's the case why do I feel like I managed to capture her imagination but didn't lead it very well?<br /><br />It seems to be a bit of a theme with me at the moment. I go out, meet quite a few women, get into great conversations with them. Steer these towards SS themes but don't seem to be able lead them to places which let them feel interested or comfortable enough to want to go any further.<br /><br />I sort of feel like I'm sooooo close. But not quite there? I'm managing to put myself in a scoring position, but can't quite create the opportunity to put the ball in the back of the net.<br /><br />Suggestions, support and encouragement most welcome.<br /><br />TR London, England"<br /><br /><br />Ok, TR. Good going, so far. You are using patterns and getting some strong, favorable responses.<br /><br />Here is where you screwed it up:<br /><br />YOU WAITED UNTIL THE END OF THE EVENING TO GO FOR THE KISS!<br /><br />What is this stuff about waiting to walk her back to her car?<br /><br />You have to learn to strike while the iron is hot.<br /><br />If you see her leaning into you, that's a huge NON-VERBAL SIGNAL that is screaming out: KISS ME, STUPID!<br /><br />The more important issue is, you seem to be putting Speed Seduction® through a dating framework.<br /><br />What I mean by that is, even though you are using the patterns and getting great responses, you are still thinking in terms of traditional dating when it comes to making your move.<br /><br />You are still thinking you have to wait til the end of the evening, etc etc.<br /><br />Get that traditional "dating" programming out of your head.<br /><br />When you capture and lead a woman's imagination and emotions, they will be ready for action, far more quickly than you would ever get through traditional dating.<br /><br />Peace and piece,<br /><br />RJ<br /><br />P.S. Want to enjoy fantastic success with amazing women, without resorting to traditional dating, stupid "dating tips", trite "dating advice", canned "pick up lines" and the rest of that nonsense?<br /><br />Get women hot for you, fast and easy, and leave traditional dating behind for good. Just go here:<br /><br />http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp<br /><br /><br />Meet women, anytime, anywhere and never worry about what to say. Check out the amazing Gold Walk Up DVD and learn the 4 approach positions that will have you easily approaching women any time and never have to think about what comes out of your mouth:<br /><br />http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj185.asp<br /><br /><br />This newsletter, and all of its contents are <br />copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this <br />newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in <br />any format, without prior consent, provided <br />all content, including all links, are kept <br />intact, proper credit for authorship is given, <br />and the newsletter is given for free, <br />without charge.Dr YJChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15934626372989345861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866183886027454455.post-59352883563915798332011-03-21T08:34:00.000-07:002011-03-21T08:35:12.441-07:00Ouch, That HurtDear Speed Seduction® Student,<br /><br />The other day, I was doing some fabulous Combat Conditioning exercises, as taught by the incredible Matt Furey.<br /><br />Being a fairly sedentary (a big word that means lazy ass) person, having a quick, fun work-out that I can do that actually makes me functionally fit, really feels good.<br /><br />But today, contrary to Matt's advice, I over did it a bit, and as a result, I'm pretty sore.<br /><br />Now, what in the world does this have to do with pulling hot women?<br /><br />Simply this; in the beginning, when starting something new, pace yourself.<br /><br />Look, as a human, you can learn to do pretty much anything, IF you do things gradually.<br /><br />Too many guys, when they order their Speed Seduction Home Study Course(http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp) TRY to jump in and do the hardest stuff first.<br /><br />For example, even if they haven't had a woman in a decade or even talked to one in the same length of time, they want to go right out, approach the hottest woman in town, and try to get her in the sack in a matter of minutes.<br /><br />Now, far be it from me to discourage ambition, and using Speed Seduction® you can and will get these kind of results.<br /><br />But my stronger suggestion is: start out slow. Take one or two basic concepts from the course, and apply them every day. Even if you only improve 1 percent a day, by the end of a couple of months, you'll be bouncing from girl to girl like a rabbit on a double frappucinno mocha latte, extra whip!<br /><br />Anyway, if you want the power, confidence and charm to pick the women you choose, instead of relying on canned pick-up lines, trite dating tips and stupid dating advice, why don't you learn to throw dating away and get the women you want jumping on you before you even go out? Thousands of guys around the world are doing so right now, and the first step is going right here:<br /><br />http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp.<br /><br />Piece and peace,<br /><br />RJ<br /><br /><br />P.S. If you are already smoking the tuna like crazy with your Home Study Course, it's time to step up to the advanced leagues and get my most powerful of all seduction courses.<br /><br />Just go here:<br /><br />http://www.speedseduction.net/products/RJ172.asp<br /><br />and check out my Secrets of Hyper-Response video/DVD series.<br /><br /><br />P.P.S. I'm not kidding. This one is NOT for beginners and you will not be allowed to order it unless you already own a Home Study Course.<br /><br />http://www.speedseduction.net/products/RJ172.asp<br /><br /><br />This newsletter, and all of its contents are <br />copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this <br />newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in <br />any format, without prior consent, provided <br />all content, including all links, are kept <br />intact, proper credit for authorship is given, <br />and the newsletter is given for free, <br />without charge.Dr YJChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15934626372989345861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866183886027454455.post-18988158991889301592011-03-18T06:18:00.001-07:002011-03-18T06:18:40.264-07:00200 Women In One Night!Dear Speed Seduction® Student,<br /><br />Only one thing pleases me more to hear that a student is kicking ass and taking names.<br /><br />What could please me more than that, you ask?<br /><br />No, not the entire UCLA Women's Volleyball team suddenly deciding that hugging me nasty in the dark is an obsession they HAVE to fulfill (Although I do love the UCLA Women's Volleyball team!)<br /><br />No, what pleases me most is hearing that a student is actually helping out a fellow student to get amazing results.<br /><br />Look: when I think back to what an incredibly tongue-tied, nerve-wracked, chicken-chokin' loser I used to be with women, it makes me want to cry.<br /><br />So, when a student gets marvelous results, and then helps another student achieve the same, well, I'm about as proud as a hillbilly daddy in a roomful of virgin 13 year olds!<br /><br />So, imagine my good feelings when I got the following email:<br /><br />Hi Ross,<br /><br />I thought the story of what happened last night might be interesting for Some of you - especially the newer SS students.<br /><br />After the London seminar the Irish lads decided that we should get together and start to really push these skills forward.<br /><br />After a number of bars we were all off the mark and had already got some great responses. Things were off to a great start - the guys had gone from not being able to open, to using blurt-outs, intuitive openers, humorous approaches, and some great sincerity, which we learned from the Gold Walk Ups DVD http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj185.asp<br /><br />The more women that were opened, the further the old beliefs faded. THE WOMEN LOVED THESE CHARMING GUYS.<br /><br /><br />I helped one student, Dan, with some of the exercises on your Fear Into Charisma DVD<br /><br />http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj180.asp<br /><br /><br />Here is the REALLY INTERESTING THING - he got some great smiles, some kino from these women, and out of about 50 approached women, only 2 semi negative responses. The energy was grounded before going out, and his state, energy, and awareness were totally controlled and supercharged.<br /><br />After this, women were approaching him, and there was no more fear of approaches - he hit the100 openers mark by the end of the night.<br /><br />Then came Selig.<br /><br />This guy was amazing, he really got into the ritual before hand, and we reversed some of the energy surrounding his former fear of clubs when we arrived at the place.<br /><br />After a little while Selig had hit 60 approaches. At this stage there was no stopping him.<br /><br />Selig had moved from being afraid to speak to women, to a guy who was magnetic, charming, intuitive, and dynamic in a little under 5 hours. He broke the 100 approaches mark by the end of the night.<br /><br />I'm sure the guys will have their own stories to post in more detail, but suffice to say, approaches are no longer a problem.<br /><br />John Stein - Cork, Ireland<br /><br />John, what can I say? A huge "right on" for helping out<br />your fellow Speed Seduction ® students. May you always find women with warm hearts, firm bods, and lots of moist relief!<br /><br />Peace and piece,<br /><br />RJ<br /><br />P.S. Want to overcome YOUR fear of approaching women and know the 4 different ways to meet them anytime, anywhere, and never worry about what to say? Then check out:<br /><br />http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj180.asp<br /><br /><br />and<br /><br />http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj185.asp<br /><br />And let me know when you top meeting 100 women a night!<br /><br /><br />This newsletter, and all of its contents are <br />copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this <br />newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in <br />any format, without prior consent, provided <br />all content, including all links, are kept <br />intact, proper credit for authorship is given, <br />and the newsletter is given for free, <br />without charge.Dr YJChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15934626372989345861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866183886027454455.post-53442699422444828572011-03-14T15:00:00.000-07:002011-03-14T15:01:22.267-07:00Getting Off Auto-Pilot And Becoming Super-Free And Aware!Dear Speed Seduction® Student, <br /><br />As you know, the incredible, life-changing Speed Life seminar comes up in October/November in a very sunny place. (Yes, it really is as beautiful as all the pictures and yes, the pretty girls really DO love foreigners!)<br /><br />Anyway, since these seminars promise to be almost overwhelming in the amount of personal improvement and personal influence methods and secrets, I wanted to give you the jump-start by giving you some drills you can get started on RIGHT NOW!<br /><br />These aren't required. <br /><br />But they will help you hit the ground running when you get here.<br /><br />BTW, if you haven't booked a room and want some advice on that, call Yates: 1-903-482-1034)<br /><br />Anyway, as I have said over and over, one of the major keys to living the life of your dreams is...<br /><br />.......Recognizing and Getting Off Of Auto-Pilot!<br /><br />Remember, most people are walking around IN TRANCE. And even more importantly, the trances they walk around in...trances of fear..of limitation...of doubt of lack....<br /><br />..............Really Do Not Serve Them!<br /><br />Actually, these trances DO serve someone. They serve the "power structure" that profits and feeds off of a society of weak, programmed, obedient and fearful robots, who will look to the "authorities" on how to live an "ok" life.<br /><br />Getting Off Of Autopilot..Now..Today! <br /><br />One of the big pieces of getting off of autopilot and having real choice, is becoming aware of your fixed patterns of perception, response, action, etc.<br /><br />To develop this "meta" awareness is a powerful tool to peel away old, trapped ways of thinking, acting and responding and believing. It makes it MUCH easier to move up ANY learning curve for any skill set.<br /><br />You see, technical skill IS important. But many people offer fairly good models for technical skill(how to sell, how to seduce, how to get fit, etc) in different areas of life, yet few people get real changes or the huge leaps they want from following this advice.<br /><br />Sometimes, the advice is lacking(as is the case with my rip-off, cheap-jack, bullshit imitators and "competitors")<br /><br />But just as often, even with good "advice" and good model for new technical skills, the person trying to follow this advice has a bigger problem: they want to really change an area of life that has been deeply emotionally challenging, evoking lots of fear, self-doubt, personal limits etc.<br /><br />What can often happen is that the new advice, new skills, new ways of thinking, feeling, acting and believing are filtered THROUGH the old emotions, experiences, beliefs, etc<br /><br /><br />This means that people seldom consistently will act out the new skills from the right frame of mind. They will be fighting themselves, their old habits, tendencies, etc.<br /><br />A metaphor I use is, if I give you a pair of glasses dipped in dog shit, EVERYTHING WILL LOOK BROWN. That is why methods that assist in building clear, unfettered awareness can help us keep old responses, beliefs, behaviors, choices at bay and "in the freezer" LONG enough for new way to take hold, and long enough for us to move up new learning curves because we can see the new skills, beliefs, responses THROUGH CLEAR EYES<br /><br />This is doubly necessary when the new ways are very different from the old ways and require major shifts. Remember, the further something stands from how you are used to acting, thinking, feeling and believing, the greater the chance for HUGE leaps. Also, the greater the chance for old ways to leap back up, unless you have a practice and discipline to deal with them.<br /><br />I'll say that again: practice and discipline. Onward... Anything you do to bring your habitual patterns into your awareness(without anger, fear or reaction) is useful. This is why I am challenging you to go from one extreme to another and to pay attention to flows of feeling that trigger all of it; the awareness of feeling flow is key to knowing when you are slipping into old patterns of behavior and is also key to designing in NEW ones!<br /><br />How To Use Breath And Energy To Immediately Set You Free!<br /><br />Does this make sense? Now, here is the next exercise to do: As you know, I talk alot about a spot on the body located about 2-3 inches below the navel, between the navel and the public bone. If you've studied any martial arts, occult or "esoteric" disciplines, this spot is called different names: the kanda, the t'an t'ien, the hara, etc. Without getting into intricate explanations, you just need to view it as a major power center in the body and a major awareness center as well. So....stand upright. Feet planted about 2 feet apart. Take a deep inhale, and as you do, imagine the breath is moving in a soft line of energy feeling down the front of your body and swirling in the t'an t'ien. It doesn't matter if it is clockwise or counter-clockwise. Find out which works best for you.<br /><br />Exhale by pulling your belly toward your spine and as you do, send strong line of energy from the small of your back up the center of your spine, out through the top of your head.<br /><br />(By the way, you can go to the website and see a free video that will show you exactly how to do this...<br /><br />http://www.speedseduction.net/resources.asp <br /><br />Click that link. Scroll down the page to the second to the last video. You will see me demonstrating this with myself and teaching it to a student.<br /><br />And if you want to learn more about doing this, I highly recommend my Fear Into Charisma video/DVD. Just click here to find out more:<br /><br />http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj180.asp)<br /><br />Onward <br /><br />Do this breath about ten times. Now..as you go through your day, whenever you talk to people, focus on that inhale going to the hara, and put your focus and awareness there as you feel the energy swirl. You don't need to work about the exhale, except when you are alone, doing the ten breaths.<br /><br />Out in the world, just focus on your awareness and breath in the hara. Notice how it changes your awareness and perception of people. Don't change anything else in your behavior. Just notice what you notice:<br /><br />What patterns of response/behavior do you notice in yourself? What patterns of response/behavior can you notice in yourself, BEFORE they actually get manifested in your behavior...can you catch some "auto-pilots" that are now just considerations that you can actually put aside? Don't try to MAKE this happen..just notice if it does?<br /><br />What patterns of response/behavior do you notice in other people? What specifically do you notice about how they respond to authority/power and how they exert authority/power with others? Can you notice which of their behaviors are "auto-pilot" and which appear more freely chosen?<br /><br />Anyway, I look forward to seeing you at Speed Life, and I can't wait to also introduce you to the "Super-Team" of other amazing trainers.<br /><br />Peace and Piece, <br />RJ <br /><br />P.S. In the event that you have NOT yet signed up for Speed Life... jeez...I don't know when or even IF I'll ever assemble this great a team of super-trainers again. You'd better call Yates NOW for more information: 1-580-366-5820. Or email him at yatescanipe@yahoo.com<br /><br /><br />This newsletter, and all of its contents are <br />copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this <br />newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in <br />any format, without prior consent, provided <br />all content, including all links, are kept <br />intact, proper credit for authorship is given, <br />and the newsletter is given for free, <br />without charge.Dr YJChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15934626372989345861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866183886027454455.post-80397655491826936302011-03-07T15:08:00.000-08:002011-03-07T15:09:23.444-08:00The *FORCE* Is With You ... To Get Hot WomenDear Speed Seduction® Student,<br /><br />I have to make a silly confession: I am going to stood in<br />line for hours to see the latest "Star Wars" movie.<br /><br />Now, I realize that being a "geek" at heart, those who know<br />me personally wouldn't be at all surprised.<br /><br />But you, my dear students, should be aware, that one reason<br />I love Star Wars is…<br /><br />I Really Do Believe In "The Force".<br /><br />No, not necessarily something as radical as Master Yoda<br />levitating a space ship.<br /><br />But I DO believe in "The Force" of breath, intent,<br />awareness, belief and skill-the skill of capturing and leading<br />the imagination and emotions-to help you have all the success<br />with women you could ever want.<br /><br />Why do I believe this?<br /><br />***********************************************************<br />ADVERTISEMENT<br /><br />To learn how to master your energy, attitude and beliefs,<br />with women, there is nothing better than my Fear to Charisma<br />DVD. Master the "Force" and get yours now. Click right here:<br /><br />http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj180.asp<br /><br /><br />For those of you who already are powerful in the "Force",<br />you can accelerate your "Jedi" training of your beliefs, energy,<br />attitude and intention, with my Beyond Confidence DVD's. Get<br />yours now at:<br /><br />http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj166.asp<br /><br />********************************************************<br /><br /><br />Not just because I've seen it in my own life, over and over.<br /><br />But more importantly, because of what you, my students, tell<br />me and have told me ever day, for the past dozen years about the<br />amazing transformation the Speed Seduction® "Force" has allowed<br />you to enjoy in your lives.<br /><br />From guys who have never had a girlfriend their entire adult<br />lives, turning it around and having multiple women. Or guys who have had to settle for what they could get, now enjoying who they really want. To guys lifting years of depression and fear in weeks or even days and going back to enjoying life.<br /><br />My friend, if you really want to learn to be a true "Jedi" <br />in the world of women, and having mastery of life as well, keeping working on those important things-<br /><br />Learning to control and design your beliefs, attitude,<br />awareness, energy and skills.<br /><br /><br />The Power Of Asking The Right Questions<br /><br />Finally, I want to speak about the most "Jedi" of "Jedi"<br />ideas. Something Yoda would surely agree with, preach and teach.<br /><br />It's about the qualities you bring to your learning.<br /><br />That is asking yourself a radical question, "What is the quality I want to bring to this challenge of mastering seduction? <br /><br />What is the quality of energy,attitude, feeling and vibe I want to bring with me as I move towards mastery of these skills?"<br /><br />You see, part of being a true seduction "Jedi" is knowing<br />how to ask the right questions.<br /><br />And I know, many of you might ask, "What do I really want to<br />be able to do with Speed Seduction®? How can I make Speed<br />Seduction® most quickly and easily work for me?"<br /><br />Good questions.<br /><br />But the best question is: what quality do I want to bring to<br />my efforts as I move more and more every day toward mastery?<br /><br />Do you want to make it about desperately and fearfully<br />trying to master new skills and bring your old anxiety and<br />fears with you?<br /><br />"That, my friend, to the Dark Side, leads".<br /><br />My friend, the good side of the Force is all about bring the<br />right qualities along with you as you move up the ladder of success with women, and about the daily practices that support those qualities.<br /><br />Will you treat yourself with compassion, patience, and have<br />the ability to be kind to yourself when you trip over your "light saber" the first few times you try this stuff?<br /><br />When you practice with women, will you do it from a place<br />of being "afraid of getting caught?" Or hoping she will like you?<br /><br />Or can you do it from a place of believing, "no matter what<br />happens with this woman, I'll have fun and learn what I need to<br />succeed, if not now then surely sooner or later. I can always<br />have fun and learn!"<br /><br />Can you find a place of compassion and clarity in your<br />mind, where you can daily give yourself credit for what you did<br />right, calmly correct mistakes, and mentally rehearse doing it<br />right?<br /><br />Can you daily bring consistency, patience, and vision to<br />where you want to go even when things are at first not going<br />right?<br /><br />The experience of thousands of students says, you can.<br /><br />And that you can have pleasure, enjoyment, power and fun with women beyond your wildest dreams..AND stay on the "Good" Side of the Force!<br /><br />To which I say, "right on".<br /><br />Peace and piece,<br /><br />RJ<br /><br /><br />P.S. Here is a beautiful testimonial from a student who has<br />truly become a "Jedi" of Speed Seduction®. What does he know that you yet don't, but could rapidly learn as he did from my Magick/PI course? Get yours here, right now:<br /><br />http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj170.asp<br /><br />Here is his un-edited letter, with his full real name, state<br />and city:<br /><br />Hi Ross,<br /><br />I wrote you a couple of months ago about my experiences with<br />your Core responsive videos. Now I'm working with your Magick<br />Influence set and am very impressed. I've worked with various forms of ritual work in the past ( from pagan to chaos ) but couldn't get them off the ground. The energy exercises really do make the difference. People, and opportunities are coming at me very quickly these days. I'm making more money, and women are calling me and seeking to spend time with me. Energy really makes the difference.<br /><br />I've been with you since 93 and I'm a fan of the old SS.<br />That's for certain. However these last 2 sets, (magick and core<br />responsiveness) are at what I believe will be the beginning of a<br />new model not only for seduction, but for real and lasting change for anyone with an open mind and the good sense to use it.<br /><br />As I said in my last email to you, the old SS got me laid.<br />It got me over many of my fears, illusions and resentment toward<br />women. This in and of itself was a magickal act lol !!!!But there was always a sense of labor involved in doing the old SS, if I'm going to be honest. And I had to evaluate whether a female was worth the effort of doing SS.<br /><br />However with the new SS I really enjoy women now. In fact I<br />love a number of them these days. Women are now easy to be around. Their energy doesn't scare me or piss me off as it did in the past. I really get that I'm not a beggar seeking sexual favors, buy a giver of incredible gifts. One being the gift of my energy and two being the ability to open her emotions to a higher dimension of self understanding and intimacy. As result I'm getting a lot of female attention. I'm getting priority and loyalty from women as well as flirtation. Before the old SS, back in the old shitty days, I was either used or ignored by women. What a fucking difference!!!<br /><br />I've wondered for awhile if SS could be taken to the place<br />in which average men using the system could get the same attention from women that rock stars, movie stars and professional athletes enjoy.In other words the groupie phenomenon. I think you're very close to opening us up to that. There are days lately when that's how it feels:)<br /><br />Right now I'm deciding which women I want to take things<br />further with. I have options I didn't have before. Not too long<br />ago I would have f***ed the first woman who responded to my Sarge. My intuition is guiding me to an extent as well.<br /><br />On the career level, I was given a lucrative opportunity<br />that has put me around wealthy people and their money. Oddly enough, I had no experience in this field, but the person who<br />hired me likes me now. Wild huh?<br /><br /><br />Anyway I bought a seat for your July magick seminar. So<br />I'll see you then.<br /><br />Ross, Thank You for your Guts, Genius, and Friendship.<br /><br /><br />Art Simkins Riverside, Ca<br /><br /><br />This newsletter, and all of its contents are <br />copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this <br />newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in <br />any format, without prior consent, provided <br />all content, including all links, are kept <br />intact, proper credit for authorship is given, <br />and the newsletter is given for free, <br />without charge.Dr YJChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15934626372989345861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866183886027454455.post-10445958108188207792011-02-28T15:47:00.000-08:002011-02-28T15:48:13.409-08:00Astonishing Use of Speed Seduction®!!Dear Speed Seduction® Student,<br /><br />One of the very great joys for me in teaching this technology Is how my very best and brightest students will use it, NOT just for getting hot women, but in other areas of life.<br /><br />When tools and ways of thinking work beyond a specific area, but can be adopted for many of life's challenges, you KNOW you are on to something.<br /><br />So I got this email I HAD to share about how I guy took what he learned and used to control his fear in a VERY stressful situation.<br /><br />Remember, as you read this, what I have said time and again:<br /><br />YOUR STATE OF MIND IS CRUCIAL TO YOUR SUCCESS WITH WOMEN! LEARN TO CONTROL YOURSELF AND YOU WILL BE HALF-WAY HOME TO ATTRACTING THE HOTTEST WOMEN!<br /><br /><br /><br />From: Chris Williams To:<br />sandworm77@comcast.net Subject: Letter from a very satisfied customer<br /><br /><br />Good morning Mr. Jeffries,<br /><br />I just now got back from an amazing experience, and I wanted to thank you for your part in it.<br /><br />I got home from the hospital a few hours ago after having our first baby. While it is true that I meet my wife using the tools I developed with the Basic SS Home Study course in 1999, that is not the reason I am writing.<br /><br />I bought the Home Study Course last spring, and one of the many great things I learned from that was handling fear. My word when I have the feelings that I used to call fear is "texhad". This re-frames the sensations I have in body that I used to call feeling fear as being anticipation of a "thrilling, exciting adventure".<br /><br />Texhad was the word that kept going through my mind as I was driving my wife to the hospital. When we arrived there, they had some challenging news for us. The baby already had her first bowel movement and had contaminated the amniotic fluid. In technical terms, the danger was that she would aspirate the merconium. This can be very serious. One of my good friend's son did this, and he was in the neo-natal intensive care for a week before they were sure he would live.<br /><br />While my wife was crying when we heard this news, I discovered that I did not automatically react. Instead of immediately allowing my feelings to be effected by this news, I was able to get into a monitoring state and cause my response. I was able to choose that this was going to the adventure part of the day's "thrilling, exciting adventure", and I can honestly<br />say that I was never scared at any time.<br /><br />Twenty-four hours later when our OB announced that my wife was exhausted after three hours of pushing and we had to go to the OR for a C-section, I turned down another chance to be scared. I was able to ride out the adventure, strongly support my wife without a trace of doubt of fear in my reactions, and at the end we were rewarded with a beautiful and perfectly healthy<br />baby girl.<br /><br />The main thing I have learned from this is that the end result was almost certainly going to be the same either way. The only difference was going to be what sort of ride I took getting from the beginning to the end. I chose to have fun, and so I did.<br /><br />I honestly thank you for that.<br /><br />Your very grateful client,<br /><br />Chris Williams<br /><br /><br />Dear Chris,<br /><br />Now, what can you say when you get fan-mail like THAT? Except that being a leader; someone who is in control of HIMSELF, instead of obsessively trying to control women, is what REALLY attracts great women into your life AND makes you worthwhile being in theirs! That's a win-win for EVERYONE!<br /><br />That's it for this issue.<br /><br />Peace and piece,<br /><br />Ross Jeffries<br /><br />P.S. You can learn to have the same self-control, peace of mind, and natural leadership that makes you a great mate AND attract hot women! Just go to: http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp<br /><br /><br />This newsletter, and all of its contents are <br />copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this <br />newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in <br />any format, without prior consent, provided <br />all content, including all links, are kept <br />intact, proper credit for authorship is given, <br />and the newsletter is given for free, <br />without charge.Dr YJChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15934626372989345861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866183886027454455.post-6198990049229532542011-02-21T08:29:00.001-08:002011-02-21T08:29:50.012-08:00Special Super-Success IssueDear Speed Seduction® Student,<br /><br />I am interrupting the normal flow of Speed Seduction(R) newsletters to bring you a very important message that I feel simply CANNOT wait.<br /><br />You see, from time to time, I get incredible testimonials from students who are using the SS material to truly.....<br /><br />...Change Their Lives And KICK BUTT WITH WOMEN!<br /><br />Yesterday, I got the following email from Ryan D, and I feel I had to share it with you because his results are not only dramatic, but more importantly...<br /><br />.....He Goes Into Which Specific Techniques Got What Specific Results With The Women He Really Wanted!<br /><br />So, here, unedited, is the testimonial from Ryan. And if YOU want to get the results he is getting, you can always to to:<br /><br />http://www.speedseduction.net <br /><br />Here it is:<br /><br />I have been using Ross's material since 1997, after a woman whom I thought I had loved totally rejected me. I was 20 at the time. <br /><br />Sitting in a pool of rejection and self-doubt, I did what my parents had taught me to do in any type of failure: learn as much as you can about the subject and re-attack. I started to read anything and everything I could on meeting and dating women. Unfortunately, most of the material out there is written by touchy-feely types (mostly women or emasculated men) and fails to get down to a REAL way to bridge the communication gap between men and women. In one such article, I did read something that one of the authors said that modern men need to learn more about the art of "seduction". That word struck a chord somewhere in one of my subconscious harmonics, and I became very interested in the idea o f seduction. Up until then, everyone had been telling me "just be yourself", "it has to just happen", "it happens when you are not looking", and "just be patient". This idea of "seduction" implied to me that a process and techniques actually existed to get the things I wanted and at the same time give the things women wanted to them. It wasn't long before I simply typed www.seduction.com into my web-browser, and I was opened up to the world of Speed Seduction. When the student is ready, the master appears.<br /><br />I bought the first book "How to Get the Women You Desire into Bed", and simply using techniques to elicit deeper structures in a person's thought processes during conversation, I met a wonderful young lady on the my flight home for Christmas Break. We lived in totally different parts of the world, but that didn't stop her from <br />driving four hours from New Jersey to see me when a trip brought me to Washington, D.C., and this is just from a plane conversation, and a few emails. I was hooked. I bought all the products; I listened to the home-study courses again and again. I became known as "the pick-up artist" in my circle of friends.<br /><br />Which is not to say that learning how to meet and seduce women was not a difficult process, even with Ross's tools, it requires a commitment. You get through one layer of your difficult issues (like approaching women), and you find another challenge behind that one. If you find the persistence to get through them all, there are spectacular rewards waiting for you. In the SS-community, though, there are so many others (Ross included) who have been where you are at, and they have gotten through the labyrinth. The path is thoroughly known, and the maps for navigation do exist.<br /><br />I eventually went to a seminar, and my success just sky-rocketed. One night during the seminar, just for fun, I decided to try and use the SS-tools to have the singer at a blues club invite me to come up on stage to sing. I started off by getting into a very good rapport with her, and she approached me after the first set was done. I eventually said to her, "if you were to ask me nicely, I might be convinced to come up and sing." She quickly convinced the rest of the band. While on stage, I focused all my energy on connecting with the room. I had folks telling me that it was the best version they had ever heard of the song I did (Mustang Sally), people were buying me beer, women were grabbing me and pulling me out on the dance floor. It was incredible.<br /><br />I could go and brag about all the successes with women I have had, (which have been amazing), like the 20-year-old Japanese cutie that I met at Thanksgiving Dinner at my new boss's house that ended up blowing me in my boss's kitchen about 2 hours after I met her, or the bi-sexual actress I met on Internet that forced me into the back of my 4X4 in the parking lot at Starbucks after our first coffee date, or the amazing-legged Lithuanian girl who would shower me with both gifts and her affection, but the more important thing has been the cascading effects that this has had on all of my life. These tools of Ross and Yates teach you how to look at the world through eyes of possibility. You see how many people are stuck in life, just drifting, and while you may feel sorry for them, you have confidence that will never be you.<br /><br />I have used this in so many other areas. I was trying to help a girl run faster so she could pass a fitness test for the Air Force, and I got her to create a state for things she really loves doing and then link that state to running. She took three minutes off her time. At one point I was a suspect in a criminal investigation (I didn't do it), and I used rapport strategies and eye-accessing <br />techniques to get a good rapport with the agents interviewing me. It was so successful that not only were they thoroughly convinced I didn't commit the crime, but the female agent wanted to set me up on a date with her supervisor.<br /><br />The biggest mistake people make about judging Ross's students is to say that they are a bunch of sleaze balls that want to learn how to manipulate and psychologically subdue women. Based on the two seminars I have attended, I would say that nothing is farther from the truth. The people that I meet at the seminars are a big factor in why I keep going to them (and will continue to into the future). These people are the type of people seriously invested in becoming the best that they can become. Sex and seduction may bring them to this material, but there is so much more to it than that. Most of these men truly love women, but are baffled on how to communicate with them, so that both the men and women involved get the things they want and need (guess what women like sex too!).<br /><br />Another thing I want to comment on about Ross is that he does have a great deal of heart, and that is so evident in the way he teaches in person. He doesn't set up a grand stage and liken himself to a god or religious figure (like some other people in this field might do). He sets things up on a very personal level. He holds his seminars in modest meeting halls in hotels. He has stools in front, not a stage. He'll go to lunch one-on-one with students, and is infinitely curious about their lives and who they are. He doesn't do this out of ego. He does it because he has a gift, and he loves to teach and give it to others.<br /><br />There is so much more I can say about the profound effect Ross and Yates have had on my life (and I know they will continue to up into the future), but you really have to sit down and make the choice for yourself. Are you going to pre-disqualify something that you haven't even tried, or are you going to take a chance and try something different that could just change your life? How many of us do the same thing over and over again, expecting a different result? What if there was another way?<br /><br />Ryan David,<br />Albuquerque, NM<br /><br />This newsletter, and all of its contents are <br />copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this <br />newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in <br />any format, without prior consent, provided <br />all content, including all links, are kept <br />intact, proper credit for authorship is given, <br />and the newsletter is given for free, <br />without charge.Dr YJChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15934626372989345861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866183886027454455.post-12089036744775765622011-02-04T12:19:00.000-08:002011-02-04T12:20:06.659-08:00Why aren't YOU getting these results with women?Dear Speed Seduction® Student,<br /><br />I just got TWO emails from students reporting their incredible results with women, using my system, and I HAD to share them with you.<br /><br />As you read them, and imagine enjoying these results for yourself, you will notice that these guys give SPECIFIC descriptions of the techniques they used from my courses (and also give some juicy details about what the women did to and WITH them as a result!)<br /><br />I want you to get excited as you read these two emails and wonder, WHEN WILL I BUY MY HOME STUDY COURSE SO I CAN ENJOY THESE RESULTS AS WELL?<br /><br />Here are the emails:<br /><br />Hi Ross and Everyone,<br /><br />An amazing story for me. I met this girl who I went to elementary and middle school with through the Internet. We both used to live in Monterey and grew up around each other, but then I moved to another town and 8 years later we meet in another town.<br /><br />Story- I instant message girl online, talked for a little while and met the following night. She came over here, I introduced cube game to her, then I talked about how I was learning to be a blissnotist, but I didn't go into detail about it until she came over. I think that made her really curious to meet me. Then I read some poetry and used the loop technique from a newsletter that was sent out before. The we started having wild passionate sex. <br /><br />Well after we had sex she had mentioned Monterey and how she used to live there and I told her I used to live there, then I asked her what school she went to and the school she named was the same school I went to, then I asked her what her name was again and she said it and I told her I knew someone by that name that went to the same school I went to and that the girl I knew by that name had invited me to go to a special birthday celebration she had for her 15th birthday, where she had to dance at the thing. <br /><br />Well, I told her I remember telling the girl I knew that I wouldn't go to her birthday celebration cause I was supposed to dance with her but that I didn't know how to dance Spanish music. So I never went. <br /><br />She then paused and looked shock and then she asked me what was the girls last name that I knew and I told her. She suddenly looked even more shocked and then I was kinda shocked by her shockness. She asked me what my name was and well I use a different name when I meet woman from the Internet, but then I told her my first name and last name and she repeated it and said slowly, with a still shocked look on her face "Oh My God, you're so and so"<br /><br />Then I pulled out pictures and yearbooks and there we were as youngsters in the yearbooks, me looking like a dork, I always thought she was hot being a cheerleader all throughout the whole time we went to school together. So the mood changed from passionate to being really aware. <br /><br />We both lived on the same street in Monterey too. She lived just a few houses down from mine. I even described her house to her I, what her yard looked like. I went so far back that I took her to a time when I rode by on my bicycle stopped in front of her house as she was walking towards her front door and smiled at her as she stopped for a second and smiled back. I remembered and described what she was wearing that day. Now we're seeing each other. I've elicited her most important values and they just so happen to match mine which is really good. <br /><br />Thanks, Ross!<br /><br />BM<br /><br /><br /><br />Could use a bit of assistance here... I'll try to be brief but that's not my strong-suit - LOL! <br /><br />Background - I seem to be having a lot of success with neighbors. 1st night closes with both the woman who lives on top of me and the one in front (my complex is a target rich environment!). (Oh, and Ross - the second one happened days after I got back from LA. Thanks again for your time while I was there, and yes, I know she's also "geographically undesirable", but oh so desirable in every other way!) <br /><br />The fling with the girl on top lasted a few weeks; we're still friends. She was fun and I enjoyed her, but not what I'm looking for long term. The one in front is another matter. She'd be an HB11 on my uncle's scale (a 9 with money!). She's the topic of this post. <br /><br />I've known her casually for some time. She's very reclusive and hard to get to know; she's lived in front of me for over a year and a half... Does travel a lot with work, but most of the time you'd never know 'cuz when she is home she's rarely seen. Over the past few months I'd seen a bit more of her. She came out with her niece and nephew to play with my dog one day and we had a good conversation. A couple of weeks later, I was out detailing my car and she again came down to chat (very unusual for her!). The following weekend, she was out cleaning HER car and we started chatting, among other things she said that I'd inspired her (one good sign!). She also asked if I knew who lives above her, because they were up all night partying and having sex she couldn't get any sleep. I blushed, smiled sheepishly and said "That was probably actually us" (the other neighbor had been over the night before, and my bedroom is directly behind this one's...). She replied that if was me she wouldn't complain to the complex, but to get on the floor next time 'cuz my bed squeaks. I ended up trading a wax job (on the car, not her - LOL!) in exchange for her taking me to happy hour. A few days after that I left town for a while so didn't get a chance to take her up on the happy hour for a while. <br /><br />Two days after I got back from my trip (I did some one-on-one counseling in LA with Marilyn Sargent and spent an afternoon with Ross) I ran into her out front. She invited me to come by later to watch a movie, and I countered with her coming to my place since I've got a nice home theater. She agreed and showed up a bit later. We decided just to talk & get to know each other a bit instead of the movie, which culminated in a late night visit to the Jacuzzi and spending the night at her place (hot sex, pussy breath and all!!!). Only two moments of last minute resistance; on the way to the pool I started holding her hand and she said "Wait a minute. We're holding hands! What about Jeannie (other neighbor)?" I replied, "Jeannie said she wants to see other people." which is true, by the way. That settled that. Then, just as we were getting into bed, she goes, "Hold on, we're neighbors! Doesn't that pose a problem for ... wait, I guess not. Nevermind..." <br />Brother BB<br /><br />************************************************************<br /><br />Now what are you looking for? CHRISTMAS! Call right now and get YOUR Home Study Course and enjoy results like these!<br /><br /><br />Piece and Peace,<br /><br />RJ<br /><br />This newsletter, and all of its contents are <br />copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this <br />newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in <br />any format, without prior consent, provided <br />all content, including all links, are kept <br />intact, proper credit for authorship is given, <br />and the newsletter is given for free, <br />without charge.Dr YJChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15934626372989345861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866183886027454455.post-26739563026739784472011-02-01T12:51:00.000-08:002011-02-01T12:52:14.797-08:00How To *Lock In* Lasting Self-Confidence With Women!Dear Speed Seduction® Student,<br /><br />Over the years, I've had a chance to look at what really<br />makes permanent, large, personal change possible. I've<br />watched thousands of guys use my methods to go very rapidly<br />from no confidence with women at all, to ease, power, grace<br />and fun with all the women they could possibly desire.<br /><br />And one of the big things they had in common, in addition<br />to buying and using my products, is…<br /><br />......Consistency!<br /><br />They didn't just listen to my products once, or give it a<br />few tries.<br /><br />No.<br /><br />They immersed themselves in the material.<br /><br />In fact, I've gotten many reports of guys going so far as<br />to have my, videos, cd's and tapes playing all the time in<br />every room of their house, apartment or hotel, no matter the<br />time of day, on multiple tape players, VHS's etc.<br /><br />Other students (including some of my current top guys)<br />have said that they took long drives out of town, often<br />hundreds of miles each way, with the tapes or CD's playing the<br />entire trip.<br /><br />Now, personally, I don't think I could stand listening to<br />my own voice that much!<br /><br />But immersing yourself in the material, in fact, immersing<br />yourself when it comes to any truly new way of thinking and<br />feeling and acting, is probably…<br /><br />.................A Damn Fine Idea!<br /><br />Remember, one of my key rules for success and power with<br />women, which I've repeated over and over:<br /><br />Use Your Language To Capture And Lead Her Imagination And<br />Emotions!<br /><br />****************************************************<br />Advertisement<br /><br />If you want incredible success with women, why not purchase<br />your Speed Seduction® Home Study Course today? Just go to:<br />http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp<br /><br />**********************************************************<br />Well, the same is true with changing yourself. You've got<br />to learn to capture and lead your own imagination and emotions<br />on a consistent basis to take you where you really want to<br />go! And then follow up with your external behavior, in the<br />real world, with women!<br /><br />Anyway, yesterday I got an email from someone who brought<br />up this very issue. So let's here from this devoted<br />client/reader:<br /><br /><br />"Hey Ross, I know you probably get a million emails a day,<br />but I felt the need to take the time to thank you for the work<br />you've put in to Speed Seduction and the Unstoppable<br />Confidence series. I've only received SS 2 days ago, but just<br />by listening to your exercises on visualization and overcoming<br />fear and shyness, I can already tell it's having an effect on<br />the way I perceive myself.<br /><br />If you happen to get through this and feel like replying,<br />I'm just wondering if it's normal to feel sort of...hollow, or<br />feel almost a blank emptiness after doing these exercises? <br />Seriously, after I listen and study for a while I feel like<br />I've completely erased a part of myself and it takes a little<br />getting used to but goes away after a while. Any idea what<br />I'm talking about, or am I just convincing myself that I<br />should feel different?<br /><br />Again, thanks a million and I promise to study hard and<br />practice as often as I possibly can. :)<br /><br />-Tim T. New Castle, PA "<br /><br /><br />Tim,<br /><br />Thanks for the kind words. I personally love the<br />Unstoppable Confidence tapes. They are one of our all time<br />best sellers, and still, over a decade after I created them in<br />1994, they stand up as one of my finest products.<br /><br />While it's great that only after 2 days you are already<br />noticing some good effects, bear in mind that it takes a while<br />for big changes to take hold and feel real.<br /><br />That's not to say you aren't changing already. You are.<br />It just takes a while for new feelings, new thoughts and new<br />behaviors to "feel like the real you". Most studies show<br />that, in fact, the time period for new ways of thinking,<br />feeling and acting to "set" and feel "natural" is 21 days.<br /><br />My suggestion is to keep on listening to the UC Tapes and<br />keep doing the exercises. It takes some consistent(but not<br />heroic or hard) effort to get change going. And for goodness<br />sakes, make sure you are a member of the Speed Seduction<br />on-line discussion group where you can get 24 hour support,<br />encouragement and ANSWERS to your questions! Yours for free<br />when you buy your Delux or Basic Home Study Course. Just click<br />here at: <br /><br />http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp<br /><br />That's it for this issue. Keep practicing, keep capturing <br />imagination and emotion (your own and womens') and keep on<br />keeping on!<br /><br />Peace and piece,<br /><br />RJ<br /><br />P.S. Your success with women is waiting for you. Just go to:<br />http://www.speedseduction.net/resources.asp<br /><br />This newsletter, and all of its contents are <br />copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this <br />newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in <br />any format, without prior consent, provided <br />all content, including all links, are kept <br />intact, proper credit for authorship is given, <br />and the newsletter is given for free, <br />without charge.Dr YJChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15934626372989345861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866183886027454455.post-56658337361111742712011-01-28T09:28:00.000-08:002011-01-28T09:29:15.015-08:00How To Get Unstuck And Going Strong With Speed Seduction®!Dear Speed Seduction® Student,<br /><br /><br />Many times, beginning students have said or written to me,<br />"I'm just having trouble getting started with this stuff. It's<br />not that I'm really shy or anything...it's just that this way of<br />talking seems SO strange to me."<br /><br />Now listen; I am very aware that a first introduction to<br />Speed Seduction® can seem overwhelming and also a little, well,<br />ooky.<br /><br />After all, if a guy walked up to you and talked to you the<br />way I am teaching you to talk to women, you'd probably call the<br />cops or punch him in the mouth. Perhaps if you were an extra<br />compassionate person, you'd refer him to a mental health clinic<br />for counseling.<br /><br />Look, I'm very, very aware that the ways I'm teaching you to<br />communicate with women seem very strange. Further I'm here to<br />tell you..<br /><br /><br />....THEY SHOULD SEEM STRANGE TO YOU!<br /><br />*******************************************<br />ADVERTISEMENT<br /><br />To check out the latest Speed Seduction® products<br />to super-charge your love life, go to:<br />http://www.speedseduction.net/products.asp<br /><br />*******************************************<br /><br /><br />Is this a contradiction?? How could something that could<br />help you have success with women beyond your wildest<br />fantasies..something that could take that old, rusty stuck door<br />of not getting anywhere or having to "settle" and...<br /><br />...Make It Swing Wide Open With Excitement, Passion And The<br />Connections With They Kind Of Women You've Always Wanted.<br /><br /><br />Well, here is the secret in a nut-shell: women think about<br />and process language DIFFERENTLY.<br /><br />We men tend to process words and language through the left<br />brain. But scientific studies, using brain scans have shown that<br />women process the same words and phrases using the left AND<br />right brains; that the same language that evokes little or no<br />emotional response from men, evokes massive emotional response<br />from women.<br /><br />This means that the language that seems funny, bizarre or<br />off to you, will be processed by women in a way that opens the<br />deep, emotional, suggestive structures of their minds.<br /><br />Now, don't get me wrong. All humans, male or female, are<br />subject to great emotional response, based on symbols. Just<br />think of the strong emotions that rush through you when you are<br />traveling in a foreign land and you see the American flag.(This<br />could be good or bad, depending what country you are from-since<br />my students come from all around the world, I have to be<br />careful!)<br /><br />Of when you hear your countries national anthem. Or when you<br />see the sun finally come out on a clear day after a long bout of<br />darkness and rain.<br /><br />These symbols and events evoke emotion, strongly, in ALL<br />humans. It is simply that women also happen to have strong<br />responses to language, spoken and written, that we men simply<br />usually don't.<br /><br />What does this really mean for you? That if you can push<br />past your initial responses that this stuff may seem odd or<br />weird and instead, understand HOW it works, go out and give it a<br />try, then....<br /><br />....The Results You Will See Will Astonish You!<br /><br /><br />A couple of quick metaphors to help you understand this.<br />When you go fishing, if you were to go fishing, would you bait<br />the hook with YOUR favorite snack foods because worms or<br />crawdads would taste bad to you?<br /><br />No. You would bait it with what the FISH bites on and<br />desires.<br /><br />Finally, supposing you were driving on a country road, late<br />at night, and a UFO landed right in front of you. Out stepped an<br />alien from a very advanced species. You knew that if you could<br />communicate with him, he would unveil incredible technology to<br />you that could solve world hunger, bring unlimited wealth,<br />riches, and happiness to the world, end disease, and make your<br />own personal dreams come true and more. He could unlock the<br />answer to any question, but..<br /><br />He didn't speak a word of any language on earth!<br /><br />Instead, you had to learn to speak to him in HIS language,<br />something that seemed at first like gibberish, hard to<br />pronounce, and not making any sense to you.<br /><br />Would you refuse his offer of a device that would teach you,<br />in a few weeks, to speak to him in his own tongue, just because<br />it felt weird and made no sense to you?<br /><br />Or would you take his language machine, learn to speak to<br />him in a way that HE understood and responded to, and...<br /><br />...COLLECT TREASURES AND TECHNOLOGY BEYOND YOUR WILDEST DREAMS?<br /><br />Now look: women are NOT aliens. But sometimes, the way they<br />process language, words and emotions can make us FEEL like they<br />are from another planet. Speed Seduction® will hand you that<br />universal translator/language machine so you can take them on<br />journeys OUT OF THIS WORLD!<br /><br />Peace and piece,<br /><br />Ross Jeffries<br /><br /><br />P.S. If you want to unstuck yourself and really get kicking<br />ass with Speed Seduction®, check out this product from<br />my top student and co-trainer, Dave Riker! It is flying off<br />our shelves!<br /><br /><br />http://www.daveriker.com/ssmanual/index.html<br /><br />This newsletter, and all of its contents are <br />copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this <br />newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in <br />any format, without prior consent, provided <br />all content, including all links, are kept <br />intact, proper credit for authorship is given, <br />and the newsletter is given for free, <br />without charge.Dr YJChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15934626372989345861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866183886027454455.post-60527796317630457712011-01-24T08:51:00.001-08:002011-01-24T08:51:46.481-08:00How To Turn That *Friend* Into Your Devoted Lover!Dear Speed Seduction® Student,<br /><br />It's truly amazing the questions I get.<br /><br />I guess since this newsletter goes around the world and<br />reaches guys from every walk of life, from every kind of<br />culture, In every age range, you'd think guys have different<br />problems with women.<br /><br />But when it comes to women, I've learned, we are pretty much<br />the same.<br /><br />We all face pretty much the same challenges.<br /><br />We are all pretty much trying to figure out the same<br />puzzles.<br /><br />Now, here is a question I have seen many times. I'll let the<br />reader speak in his own voice:<br /><br /><br /><br />"My name is XXX and I am 18 and from Ireland. I think your<br />material is absolutely fantastic and it has thought me so many<br />little things in which you should never, ever do with women! And<br />for that I thank you most grateful .I don't know where you<br />learned all of this but it really is great.<br /><br />I have a problem though, and I know you are probably a very<br />busy man who won't reply to this but I am going to write it none<br />the less. I am completely falling for one of my friends. I feel<br />a very strong sexual attraction towards her, perhaps stronger<br />than I have ever felt before. I have never been closer to a<br />girl. We talk for hours, we are very physically close when we<br />are with each other but I think she may be afraid of abandoning<br />friendship. This is a serious gripe in my side. Is there<br />anything I could do effectively to bring out her true feelings<br />and desires without blatantly asking her? I suppose I want to<br />know how do you tell when a girl gets close to you whether she<br />is a friend or something more."<br /><br />Ok, Mr. X.<br /><br />The first thing to realize is, even if this girl is totally<br />attracted to you, to the point where she is having nightly<br />fantasies about you and her doing the nasty "grown-up" thang, <br />there is just about zero chance, especially given her young age,<br />that she is going to make the first physical move.<br /><br />Sorry, but that just isn't the way it works.<br /><br />I really wish it weren't the case that we guys almost always<br />have to go first.<br /><br />But that is how it works.<br /><br />So if you were hoping for her to make a move, or tell you<br />herself, it's unlikely to happen.<br /><br />Now, even if she is afraid of "losing the friendship" that<br />doesn't mean you have to let her fears dictate where you or her<br />are going to go.<br /><br />As I have said before, one of the key aspects of being a<br />leader with women, is to see where they are at, without having<br />to go there for yourself.<br /><br />That is, you can understand her emotions, without having to<br />take them on for yourself.<br /><br />Her fear is just that; H-E-R-S.<br /><br />Stand your ground, and set the lead<br /><br />Does that make sense?<br /><br />Now, having set that, there are some things you can do to<br />accelerate this sexually and see just where you really stand.<br /><br />First of all, let me tell you what I do NOT recommend.<br /><br />I do NOT recommend suddenly grabbing and kissing her.<br /><br />Why?<br /><br />It's too rough a jump.<br /><br />To go from zero contact to erotic contact(like kissing) is<br />just too abrupt.<br /><br />So I would recommend you do some testing of her physical<br />boundaries first.<br /><br />Now, it just so happens, women have 3 "erotic hot spots"<br />that seem like totally innocent places to touch.<br /><br />These are:<br /><br />1. The back of the neck 2. The small of the back 3. The<br />palm(and thumb)<br /><br />(By the way, if you want to see free video clips of me<br />demonstrating the first two spots on a very hot female subject,<br />just go to:<br /><br />http://www.speedseduction.net/resources.asp)<br /><br />Anyway, here is what you can do:<br /><br />When you are talking to her, get up to go to the bathroom,<br />but as you do, reach out, and with the palm of your hand, gently<br />rub the back of your neck(as I illustrate on the free video on<br />the website).<br /><br />Notice her response. If she inhales sharply, moans with<br />pleasure, melts under your touch, then you are on your way!<br /><br />Another thing you can do is to offer to read her palm.<br />Don't' ask me how to do palm reading; go to the library and get<br />a book on it.<br /><br />Anyway, you can mostly make it up. Tell her her palm shows<br />she is lonely. Trace your finger on her palm and tell her that<br />her love line is very strong, that she has strong desires.<br />Explain also that the palm is a strong energy center, then take<br />your thumb and rub her palm with your thumb.<br /><br />If you see her get the "doggy dinner bowl" look; the look<br />that says, "kiss me now" then lean in and kiss her! If she pulls<br />back, don't apologize! Just look at her and say, "hmmm…it just<br />seemed like you needed it"!<br /><br />Another thing to do(also illustrated on the website) is to<br />put your palm briefly on the small of her back when you are<br />walking somewhere. Don't keep it there. Just use it to guide her<br />briefly and then take it away. The small of the back is a strong<br />sexual energy center.<br /><br />The best advice is: learn from this. Don't be too attached<br />to this outcome with this girl. Remember this belief;<br /><br />I either get what I want, or learn what I need to in order<br />to get what I want or even BETTER, next time.<br /><br />If you see all of this through the filter of THAT belief,<br />you will do way better with this girl than if you HAVE to "win".<br /><br />Good luck, and let us know how it turns out.<br /><br />Piece and Peace,<br /><br />RJ<br /><br /><br />P.S. Want real success with women? Your Speed Seduction(R) Home Study course is waiting for you! Go here, now:<br />http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp<br /><br />This newsletter, and all of its contents are <br />copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this <br />newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in <br />any format, without prior consent, provided <br />all content, including all links, are kept <br />intact, proper credit for authorship is given, <br />and the newsletter is given for free, <br />without charge.Dr YJChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15934626372989345861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866183886027454455.post-69279647794062606352011-01-17T07:55:00.001-08:002011-01-17T07:55:49.732-08:00When To Be Sexually Aggressive With WomenDear Speed Seduction® Student,<br /><br />One of the more common scenarios I get presented with is<br />students who are good at some of the stages of seduction, but<br />tend to choke at “the closing”.<br /><br />That is, they are good at the pick-up, good at the middle<br />stage, even good at getting a lady to make out with them.<br /><br />But somehow, when it comes to “going for the goods”, they<br />drop the ball.<br /><br />In fact, just recently, I received the following email from<br />a student:<br /><br />"Ross, The last two newsletters were awesome.<br /><br />I have had your home study course for a while, but have been<br />tripping over my own dick for the last year.<br /><br />I feel like I am developing rapport and getting women in the<br />state of mind that I want them, but I have also missed<br />opportunities because I am used to being "shy" to make the move.<br /><br />My most recent missed opportunity occurred with a nice<br />looking 18 year old. I banged her mom using the blammo pattern,<br />and then her mom set me up with her daughter.<br /><br />I did the discovery channel pattern with the daughter and<br />she kissed me. I still didn't close the deal!! Sounds pretty<br />sad huh?<br /><br />This kind of interaction has happened time and time again,<br />even before I bought your course.<br /><br />The strange thing is that most of these women seem upset<br />after the fact. I am willing to do what you outlined in the new<br />letters in order to become a more calm and confident version of<br />myself, and realize the opportunity when it happens, and not<br />after the fact.<br /><br />Am I the only student you have had that can't close the deal<br />when the girl kisses him?<br /><br />Thank you in advance for your response."<br /><br />Your humble student,<br />Paul Ruggerio, Eaton Rapids, MI<br /><br />Ok, Paul, and all of the rest of you who may have this<br />issue:<br /><br />Let’s get this clear: just because a woman is kissing us and<br />making out with us, does NOT mean she is sufficiently turned on<br />or ready, in her own mind, to “dip the donkey”.<br /><br />In fact, I have learned that many women need alternating<br />periods of being heated up, then cooled down, then heated up<br />even more strongly, when it comes to getting physical.<br /><br />In hypnosis, we call this fractionation. Simply put, you<br />put someone in a trance, then take them out again. When you put<br />them back in, they go back in deeper than the previous time. <br />Each time you take them out of the trance it builds potential to<br />have a stronger trance response when you put them back in.<br /><br />I think many, if not MOST women, are this way, with being<br />physically turned on. If you make out with them, raise them to a<br />plateau of excitement, then slow down and back up a bit, they<br />will be FAR more receptive when you turn the heat back on.<br /><br />So usually, when you start making out with a woman, it’s<br />actually a good idea to get her sizzling for about ten minutes,<br />then drop back down a level. If you are at “third base” back off<br />to light kissing. Even take a break, go to the bathroom, and<br />come back. Or move her to a different part of the house, and<br />then resume.<br /><br />We men are like rockets with our excitement: we take off<br />straight up. Women respond better with zigs and zags.<br /><br />Now, as for why this student didn’t get more aggressive, I<br />think often it is because we are shocked that the patterns<br />actually work, even more so on women that are hotter and younger<br />than we are used to getting.<br /><br />Over the years I have seen this happen with many students:<br />the first few times they try Speed Seduction® they do NOT expect<br />it to work! And when it does, they don’t know quite what to do.<br />As if suddenly you are holding a ten million dollar lottery<br />ticket in your hand and you are staring at the numbers because<br />you can’t believe you won!<br /><br />I remember one story in particular, about a student who had<br />just gotten his Home Study Course and used some patterns on an<br />attractive woman at his church social.<br /><br />She insisted they go out to the parking lot and then she<br />jumped all over him, performed some “oral fun” on him, and then<br />said, “Bang me. Put me on the hood of the car and bang me.”<br /><br />The student said, “But the pastor is going to be come out<br />with the congregation any minute!”<br /><br />She said, “I don’t the pastor to bang me! I want YOU to bang<br />me!”<br /><br />Now, this guy was so shocked, Mr. Pee Pee wouldn’t do the<br />job, so he wound up having to take a rain check!<br /><br />The bottom line is, you need to mentally rehearse success!<br />Literally act out what you will say and do in response to a<br />woman really wanting you, indeed insisting on having you.<br /><br />Now, another issue is that sometimes women who are turned on<br />and do want you will suddenly pull up short and have some last<br />minute resistance to doing the “grown-up”.<br /><br />We’ll explore THAT one in the next issue.<br /><br />‘Til then,<br /><br />Peace and piece<br /><br /><br />Ross Jeffries<br /><br />P.S. You can have all the success with women you’ve ever<br />wanted right now, by going to:<br /><br />http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp<br /><br />This newsletter, and all of its contents are <br />copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this <br />newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in <br />any format, without prior consent, provided <br />all content, including all links, are kept <br />intact, proper credit for authorship is given, <br />and the newsletter is given for free, <br />without charge.Dr YJChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15934626372989345861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866183886027454455.post-76284419625335627982011-01-14T08:02:00.000-08:002011-01-14T08:03:14.040-08:00Three Students Share Shocking Seduction Success!Dear Speed Seduction® Student,<br /><br />One of the great joys of doing this job is getting the<br />emails and testimonials from guys just like you who are using<br />my material to really turn their love lives around and<br />transform their success with women.<br /><br />Now, the best ones are from students who are really just<br />trying things out for the first time, and interestingly<br />enough, even though they've read the newsletters, understood<br />the courses and material the first few times they try this<br />stuff ……<br /><br />.........They Don't Even Believe It's Going To Work!<br /><br />No, that wasn't a misprint or a typo. I said they don't<br />(as in do NOT) believe this stuff is going to work!<br /><br />In fact, I have seen from my experience, time and time<br />again, when guys first try this stuff, they usually DON'T<br />believe in it precisely because it IS so different from the<br />way 99% of most guys have been taught to think, feel and act<br />around women.<br /><br />A Key Understanding If You REALLY Want To Change!<br /><br />You see, there is a huge paradox in creating real, massive<br />change, in any area of your life. Once you get this key<br />understanding, you will be on your way to massive success at<br />changing virtually anything (and not just with women), no<br />matter what system or method you might try. So pay attention,<br />and get this, because here it is it is:<br /><br />The Methods For Success That Are Closest To What You Are<br />Already Doing Seem The Easiest To Try, But Offer the Least<br />Potential For Huge Change , Because They Are So Close To What<br />You Are Already Thinking, Acting, Believing And Doing!<br /><br /><br />What this comes down to, is the whole idea of "the comfort<br />zone". When you stay in your "comfort zone" and just do what<br />you are used to, it is pretty easy, yet doing what you are<br />used to (and thinking and believing as you have been used to)<br />is what has been keeping you stuck.<br /><br />Thinking, believing and acting very differently can bring<br />you rapid and massive results, but it CAN at first feel<br />uncomfortable unless you have some special "technology" to get<br />you around that "difference".<br /><br />Anyway, being able to try out brand new ways of doing<br />things, and to do so with a sense of enjoyment, exploration<br />and fun, instead of anxiety and fear, is one of the unique<br />technological breakthroughs that Speed Seduction® brings to<br />you, in addition to the actual material for meeting and<br />rapidly turning on women!<br /><br />SS is the only system that has been offering these tested,<br />proven tools for self-transformation to men for the past<br />decade, and I am very proud of that!<br /><br /><br /><br />So, that out of the way, let me share 2 recent emails from<br />you, from some happy and successful NEW students:<br /><br /><br /><br />Ye Gods!<br /><br />I have to share this with somebody, and I'm afraid you <br />guys are going to have to take the brunt of it...<br /><br />I went out tonight on a field trip. I'd spent most [nay,<br />all...] of my free time over the last few weeks burying<br />myself in the Basic SS CDs & literature. I'm not ashamed to<br />admit that I've pranced around my apartment daily, like an<br />idiot, rehearsing patterns and "Doing the affirmations."<br /><br />I went out tonight, met some friends in a noisy pub [not<br />the ideal environment, for sure...], but with the<br />single-minded determination to try this stuff out for real.<br /><br />Cutting to the chase: I saw a slim, blonde HB surrounded<br />by drooling buffoons. Throwing caution to the wind [have you<br />ever tried doing that?], I dived on in. I caught her eye,<br />smiled, opened with a bit of low-key banter and she said:<br /><br />"I am from Germany. My English, it's not very good..."<br /><br />She was a foreign exchange student who'd only been in the<br />country for a few weeks.<br /><br />Needless to say, my initial though was: "Jesus Christ on a<br />Pogo-Stick! Destiny has truly tied my shoelaces together!" But<br />within seconds I thought: "Fuggit - let's try this shit out,<br />anyhow..."<br /><br />So I ran a variation of the Instantaneous Connection<br />pattern on her. I riffed in some embedded commands. And I<br />did it all very, very, very slowly. In that terrible mixed-up<br />syntax that English-speaking people invariably use when<br />talking to people from other countries. And you know what? <br />It worked an absolute treat!<br /><br />We somehow ended up talking about German expletives. <br />After a few rubbishy attempts at getting my tongue around<br />[ahem!] the German equivalent of 'Son of a bitch' we moved<br />onto more fruity translations.<br /><br />Let's just say, without prompting, she told me what the<br />German word for "c*nt" is - she made it clear that this wasn't<br />the 'biological' term, but the taboo variant. And she was<br />really determined that I got the pronunciation right...<br /><br />Last orrders arrived, and -without so much as a hint of<br />supplication -I [slowly, with bad syntax] explained to her<br />that it was a tragic, shame that our conversation had to end,<br />and that it was an awful, awful shame that we can't go on<br />learning new things about each other's language. She reached<br />into her handbag, pulled out her mobile [cellphone] and<br />demanded that we exchange numbers...<br /><br />I'm still in a state of shock. I can't get my hat on.<br /><br />Must run! I urgently need to check out some<br />German-English translation sites...<br /><br />Tomas G, City and state withheld, by request<br /><br /><br />Dear SS List Brothers,<br /><br />Just wanted to say hi to everybody on the list & look<br />forward to a long and learning relationship,<br /><br />I am new to this and have been applying the Twin Brothers<br />pattern Ross told us to try after the UK SS seminar this<br />September 2004,<br /><br />The other day I used this pattern on a sexy Italian<br />manageress of a restaurant I had talked to her on a couple of<br />occasions before this evening, anyway while I was 1/2 way<br />through I couldn't believe her response, she chose the kisser<br />rather than someone who makes her laugh & then held my hand<br />and started to talk about how she felt during sex. I almost<br />fell of my chair, my colleague couldn't believe it either,<br />(he's coming to the next seminar) I left it there because I<br />was punch drunk with the response & delighted that it worked.<br /><br />I have seen her again and have her number I will let you<br />know how I get on.<br /><br />THANKS ROSS<br /><br />Tim Cooke<br /><br />London, England<br /><br /><br />Thanks Tomas and Tim!<br /><br />Now, do you notice what each of these guys have in common?<br /><br />Very simple: they had the balls to try something new and<br />different, without even being sure of the result.<br /><br />They got the results, by stepping out of their comfort<br />zone!<br /><br />So how about you, dear reader? How about you?<br /><br /><br />Til next time,<br /><br /><br /><br />Peace and Piece,<br /><br /><br />Ross<br /><br />P.S. Get results like these guys and better by getting<br />your Speed Seduction® Home Study course at:<br />http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp<br /><br />This newsletter, and all of its contents are <br />copyright 2004, Ross Jeffries. However this <br />newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in <br />any format, without prior consent, provided <br />all content, including all links, are kept <br />intact, proper credit for authorship is given, <br />and the newsletter is given for free, <br />without charge.Dr YJChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15934626372989345861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866183886027454455.post-44838331524018715162011-01-11T13:01:00.001-08:002011-01-11T13:01:45.844-08:007 Power Attitudes To Skyrocket Your Success With Women!Dear Speed Seduction® Student,<br /><br />It's been said that "attitude" determines your "altitude".<br />In other words, the way you THINK about yourself and a subject<br />will be as important as what you do.<br /><br />Well, let's not knock doing the right thing. Effective<br />action, especially with women, is REQUIRED.<br /><br />However, your attitude is a big part of how attractive women<br />will find you. You can consider your attitude to be like the<br />conductive medium through which the electricity of your BEHAVIOR<br />will flow. If we take electric current and try to pass it<br />through:<br /><br />a. A sheet of cardboard<br /><br />b. A sheet of copper foil<br /><br />Which will conduct the current best? Of course, you don't<br />need to be a physics major to answer: the copper foil. Just so,<br />your attitude with WOMEN will determine just how well your<br />"moves" are received. Doesn't that make sense?<br /><br />With that in mind I give you:<br /><br />POWER ATTITUDES for ultimate success with women.<br /><br />1. Being with me is the best possible choice any woman can<br />make.<br /><br />Now, can you prove that this is true? No, of course not. It<br />isn't a factual statement about an objective truth; it's a<br />position you choose to come from. Now, never verbalize this<br />attitude, for Christ sake. Don’t get right in a woman's face and<br />say, "being with me is the best choice you can make, baby. But<br />show it in how you act.<br /><br />2. I consistently display the willingness to walk away.<br /><br />This is one MOST "chumps" miss. You see, if a woman doesn't<br />get, somewhere in her mind, that she could POSSIBLY do something<br />to lose you, she will never really feel deep passion for you.<br /><br />If you are ALWAYS there for her, no matter what, then in<br />the back of her mind, she will de-value you, to a greater or<br />lesser degree. Somewhere, somehow, in the back of her mind (or<br />even the front) she must realize that she COULD one day lose<br />you!<br /><br />3. I give a woman a little bit of what she wants, and then<br />pull back and make her work for more.<br /><br />As sad as it seems, if you are too giving to a woman, too<br />soon, you come off as hungry and needy and she just winds up<br />dumping you. You see, guys who are successful with women give a<br />free sample, but nice guy losers give away the store. You must,<br />no MUST learn to say "no", make yourself a little scarce and<br />unavailable, and keep her a little bit in doubt.<br /><br />4. I always come from the place of being determined to do<br />what works.<br /><br />So many times I've had people whine to me, "Why can't I just<br />be myself?" What that really means is, "I want to be lazy and do<br />what I've always done all along, even though it doesn't work!"<br /><br />Look, to really win big in life, you have to be consistent.<br />And that means applying these principles, all the time, even<br />when you don't particularly feel like it, and especially if you<br />are in a slump.<br /><br />5. I never attach excess meaning to winning or losing with<br />women.<br /><br />I can (and will) do a whole issue on this one, but basically<br />what I mean is to realize that if a woman accepts you, it<br />doesn't mean that the next one will, so stay on your toes, and<br />don't get lazy or sloppy. (See item #4 directly above)<br /><br />And if she rejects you, it just means that the approach you<br />tried, at this particular time, with this particular woman,<br />hasn't worked...yet. It might work at another time with her, or<br />you may just need another approach. Even if it doesn't, as I<br />once told a friend of mine who only thought he saw me get<br />rejected... Dan, I never get rejected. I only discover if a<br />woman has good taste!!<br /><br />6. I don't need to win all the time; I size up a woman's<br />potential and either go for it or move on and cut my losses<br />FAST.<br /><br />Sometimes the best choice is just to say, "adios" and move<br />on. When you realize that you don't have to win all the time,<br />and then it takes the pressure off and you become much more<br />relaxed. Ironically, and paradoxically, this almost always leads<br />to your winning far more often than you ever imagined<br />possible!!!!<br /><br />7. I never know what physical type a woman will go for so I<br />always for it congruently and powerfully.<br /><br />Listen: women are much more individualistic in what they<br />like, physically speaking. I once had a gorgeous young thing<br />tell me that if Mel Gibson or Tom Cruise asked her out, she'd<br />say, "no" because she only liked tall, thin black men!! You just<br />don't know, so go for it anyway.<br /><br />Aren't those just great? Can you imagine how great you'll do<br />with women when you have these attitudes down and are<br />manifesting them in your life?<br /><br />Now, speaking of manifestation, I just had to include this<br />email testimonial I just recently received:<br /><br />Dear Ross, Well my "dream girl" girlfriend who is ten years<br />younger then me proposed to me on Chritsmas Eve. I said yes of<br />course. The beautiful thing about SS is that it gives you the<br />tools to touch a woman in a beautiful way so much so that your<br />communications with her are able to take place on a whole<br />different level.<br /><br />I have been on the list for seven years Thank you for<br />helping me provide the women I have come across with such a<br />beautiful gift!!!<br /><br />Sean Morris, Los Angeles, CA<br /><br />Sean, thank you. It’s great to see when someone finds some<br />true happiness, using the tools I’ve provided them. By the way,<br />the “list” Sean is speaking of is the Speed Seduction® yahoo<br />groups list, for Home Study Course owners only. We now have<br />close to 2,000 students, worldwide, forming a 24 hour community<br />to help with questions, challenges and to share successes! So<br />get your Home Study Course at:<br />http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp and join the<br />community today! YOU ARE NOT ALONE ANYMORE!<br /><br />‘Til next time,<br /><br />Peace and piece,<br /><br />Ross<br /><br />This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright <br />2004, Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be <br />reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior <br />consent, provided all content, including all links, <br />are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, <br />and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.Dr YJChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15934626372989345861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866183886027454455.post-26337493341308800832011-01-07T09:07:00.000-08:002011-01-07T09:08:11.002-08:003 Killer Tips To Triple Your Seduction SuccessDear Speed Seduction® Student,<br /><br />Believe it or not, your old pal Ross actually has his<br />critics. People who don't like me..People who think I<br />shouldn't be teaching you what I'm teaching. One of the<br />things I hear most often from these morons is something<br />along the likes of, "C'mon now, Ross. What you're talking<br />about couldn't possibly work. In fact, it sounds like<br />magic."<br /><br />Now, I don't really care what these pinheads think. But<br />I am concerned that YOU, dear reader, understand what Speed<br />Seduction® is all about. And it certainly ISN'T magic.<br /><br />Now, don't get me wrong. If you're like some of my<br />clients when they are first starting out, without having<br />been intimate with a woman for years and then suddenly you<br />are enjoying 2, 3 even 4 hot women at a time, , it might<br />seem like magic.<br /><br />In fact, Speed Seduction(R) is mechanics.<br /><br />That means it requires a certain sequence, set of<br />circumstances and applications in order for it to work.<br />Within that framework, it's massively powerful, but that<br />framework still has to be there.<br /><br />Just like a super-charged, perfectly tuned, 450<br />horsepower, V-8 engine won't run without the oxygen to burn<br />the fuel, Speed Seduction only works when there are certain<br />necessary conditions.<br /><br />Thankfully those conditions have nothing whatsoever to<br />do with your looks, age, money, social status or other<br />"externals" outside of your control. In this issue, I'm<br />going to review what those conditions are, and how you can<br />use all this to massively increase the quantity and quality<br />of your babe hunting.<br /><br />Condition One:You've Got To Be In The Right Frame Of<br />Mind<br /><br />As I've said time and again, the patterns I teach are<br />NOT just another high tech way to beg you into some girl's<br />pants. If you view them like this, then, even if you<br />deliver them flawlessly from a technical standpoint, you<br />are still going to get nowhere because your weak-ass,<br />piss-ant, puss-wimp attitude will.......<br /><br />... ...Totally Annihilate The Emotional States You Are<br />Attempting To Create In Your Subject! (<br /><br />How does this self-defeating process take place?<br />Simple.<br /><br />As I have said time and again, in any area of life, if<br />you are coming from a place of hunger, or need, or<br />desperately trying to prove to yourself that you can win<br />again, then you almost certainly guaranteed to fail. You'll<br />simply push away the very thing you want and get locked<br />into a self-perpetuating "defeat-cycle" that gets you<br />nowhere.<br /><br />If you want to be hilariously successful with Speed<br />Seduction, then you must realize that the patterns aren't<br />about begging. They certainly aren't about tricking or<br />misleading.<br /><br />No, sir, the patterns are about being able to create<br />such incredible states of pleasure and fun and highs for<br />her that no one else can, such that she really WANTS to<br />give you her sexual goodies. They're about creating states<br />for her that no one else can.<br /><br />Viewed like this, that incredible babe you want to bed<br />isn't someone you need to fear. She's someone who's about<br />to receive an incredible gift from you, a gift she might<br />continue to receive IF she's smart enough and hot enough<br />and sexy enough to give you what it takes to keep YOU<br />coming back for more.<br /><br /><br />Just imagine the difference when you can look at a<br />honey-pie and honestly think to yourself, "How good can<br />this woman stand to feel? Let's go have fun and find out!".<br /><br />Speaking of fun, another big part of being in the right<br />frame of mind to make SS work is refusing to take it<br />seriously.<br /><br />By that, I mean you take the attitude that you are<br />experimenting, having fun, and if what you do doesn't work,<br />you've simply polished your skills and learned something<br />new.<br /><br />Let me illustrate this by telling you about one of my<br />favorite students, David W. David is, to put it charitably,<br />unattractive. He's 6 foot, 270 pounds, dresses like slob on<br />his best days, and on a scale of one to 10, 10 being a<br />Greek god, he's a 3.<br /><br />David also happens to be sleeping with four gorgeous<br />women, all of whom are either aerobics instructors or<br />tri-athletes.<br /><br />What made this success possible? Well to quote him, "I<br />thought to myself, hey, since this isn't going to work, I<br />might as well pick the best looking women in the gym for it<br />to fail on and see what happens".<br /><br /><br />Because he didn't need to make it work, and took a<br />relaxed, experimental attitude, he got out of his own way<br />and is now the envy of his friends, who still don't believe<br />him when he told them about my stuff. (<br /><br />Condition Two: Sufficient Time To Speak With Your<br />Subject To Run A Minimum Of Two (Preferably Three) Patterns<br />On Her.<br /><br />As I'm fond of saying, a lone pattern, by itself, is<br />like a lone piranha; nasty, but hardly deadly. To be<br />effective, patterns have to be run in sequences, and I<br />strongly prefer to stick in a minimum of three.<br /><br />Can you do patterns strung out over a period of time if<br />you really don't have much of a chance to talk to a woman?<br />Sure...but your effectiveness goes WAY down.<br /><br /><br />Look at it like this; in a boxing match you could land<br />one solid punch per round, for fifteen rounds, but it's<br />much more effective to slam the guy with the fifteen<br />punches one after another.<br /><br />Condition Three: Enough Flexibility To Get The Initial<br />Entryway Into Her Neurology<br /><br />When you start running patterns on a woman, the point<br />is to find that initial entry into her neurology that<br />lights her up and gets a strong response.<br /><br />Sometimes this requires you to cycle through a few<br />approaches. As an example, I was having dinner with a<br />friend who I hadn't seen in some time, and I was explaining<br />to him how SS works. Rather than continue to try to<br />explain, I decided to demonstrate on our tasty little<br />waitress. I started out by telling her that I had an<br />intuition about her, that she was a very visual person.<br /><br />What was her response? Just about zero. She showed NO<br />interest and no response. Obviously, appealing to her<br />visual imagination was not the doorway into her mind.<br /><br />I then moved to another favorite ploy and allowed her<br />to "overhear" my staged conversation with my friend,<br />wherein I talked to him about how women select men for<br />different roles, but no man can give everything a woman<br />needs. (This will often get them talking if they have a<br />boyfriend and aren't happy with him, which is pretty damn<br />often).<br /><br />Again, zero response. Zip. Nada. By this time, my old<br />friend was looking more and more skeptical. Did old Ross<br />give up...just pack it in and quit? Not on your life,<br />Cedric.<br /><br />Next time she came by the table I mentioned the fact<br />that I had just been reading an article about how men and<br />women connect with each other. (I was trying to get in here<br />using the emotional doorway). No luck with this approach<br />either; perhaps she just didn't know how to read and was<br />embarrassed by the fact.<br /><br /><br />How I Changed My “Strategy” To Get Into Her Mind<br /><br />So by this time, I figured it was time to switch<br />strategies. Leaning back in my chair, I looked at her<br />across the restaurant, turned on my intuition and asked<br />myself, "What can I notice about her that has to be true<br />that I can use to make a connection?"<br /><br />What I noticed in this poor, overworked food-server's<br />case is that she looked tired as hell. So next time she<br />came by the table I said, "You know, you sure look like you<br />could use a vacation. If you could imagine your ideal<br />vacation spot, what would it be like?"<br /><br />Well, mercy's sake, wouldn't you know that at that<br />point she dropped straight into trance and begin to imagine<br />her day on the perfect beach, soaking up the sun, feeling<br />the warm water and the cool breeze? Of course, from there,<br />I went straight into the bl*w job pattern, talking about<br />how interesting it was to me how people connect with their<br />fantasies and desires and day dreams and about how I was<br />just reading an article about the difference between<br />compulsions and anticipation... Did she respond strongly to<br />this?<br /><br />Advertisement<br /><br />To find out how YOU can capture and lead a woman’s<br />imagination, find a doorway deep into her mind, and get her<br />hot for you in minutes, just go to:<br />http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp and read all<br />about the amazing Home Study Course<br /><br /><br /><br />Only with a super-doggie dinner bowl look that my<br />Dalmatians couldn't have produced during a hunger strike!<br />(My Dalmatians would NEVER have gone on a hunger strike!)<br /><br />Now what is the point of this story? Just that I<br />wouldn't have been able to do this if I didn't have the<br />ability/flexibility to keep right on going when the first<br />three approaches I tried fell flatter than a pre-pubescent<br />girl's chest.<br /><br /><br />So look; if you're having some trouble with your Speed<br />Seduction skills, chances are it's due to a problem with<br />one of these vital conditions. Pull yourself up short, take<br />a breather and re-assess what you've been doing. If you've<br />been putting yourself in situations that are stacked<br />against you, (e.g., the girl's always too busy to talk, or<br />your attitude is just plain off) re-arrange things so the<br />odds are more in your favor. You'll find SS still yields<br />results for you light-years beyond anything else out there.<br /><br />After all, David W. has only been able to figure out<br />how to make it work for him in the gym. He still can't pick<br />up a girl on the street to save his life. But with four<br />firm, young, perfect-bodied athletic women to console him I<br />don't feel too sorry for him. Go thou and do likewise.<br /><br />‘Til next time,<br /><br />Piece and Peace,<br /><br />Ross<br /><br />This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright <br />2004, Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be <br />reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior <br />consent, provided all content, including all links, <br />are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, <br />and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.Dr YJChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15934626372989345861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866183886027454455.post-77919943360680572452011-01-05T08:26:00.001-08:002011-01-05T08:26:54.412-08:00Wimps Into Winners: How To Pass A Woman's B.S. Tests And Win Her Over, Hard!Dear Speed Seduction® Student,<br /><br />There's a common saying in street fighting that 95% of all<br />real fights wind up in a clinch and go to the ground. Could that<br />really be true? Frankly, I don't know. But I will say this: 95%<br />of the time, a woman will test you by the second date, or<br />sooner, to see:<br /><br />1. If you'll take her bullshit.<br /><br />2. How hungry you are for her attention (remember: those who<br />look hungry, never get fed)<br /><br />3. Just how much control she can exert over you and/or the<br />relationship.<br /><br />In this issue, I'd like to talk about how you can pass those<br />tests, and how to do some testing of your own. Believe me, this<br />is important. If you've ever been dumped for being "too nice",<br />or have been told, time and again, "let's just be friends", it's<br />because you haven't learned to recognize when you're being<br />tested or just haven't yet learned how to properly respond. You<br />thought you would get points for being "co-operative" and<br />"helpful", and instead you just got the fuzzy end of the<br />lollipop.<br /><br />Why She Tests You: The Search For Strength And Certainty<br /><br />Look: one of the primary things that women are looking for<br />from a man is security; the feeling that someone is stronger<br />than they are. When you put a woman in her place, when you set<br />rules and boundaries for her to follow, it lets her know she can<br />relax around you and feel comfortable and secure. This search<br />for strength is the single most important reason why she tests<br />you. The other factor is ambivalence, or what I call the "make<br />up my mind for me" syndrome.<br /><br />You see, the sad reality is that often a woman just isn't<br />that interested in you one way or another. Maybe you aren't<br />exactly the physical type she goes for, maybe she just got<br />burned in a bad relationship, or there's some unseen competitor<br />who she's waiting to hear from. What ever her reasons, you can<br />tell this is happening when you hear something like, "Uh...well,<br />I'd like to go out with you Friday, but why don't you call me<br />late Friday afternoon and I'll let you know for sure?"<br /><br />Finally, there is the fact that sometimes, modern women just<br />get overwhelmed with eighty billion things they are trying to do<br />at once. And, when overwhelmed, they flake on commitments that<br />occur during the peak of the overwhelm.<br /><br />How To Handle It…Dealing From A Position Of Strength<br /><br />To get back to street fighting analogies, there's a concept<br />from Jeet Kun Do, the fighting style of the late, great Bruce<br />Lee that basically says that any weapon thrust your way, as part<br />of an attack is just a convenient target to be destroyed. Coming<br />from this perspective, an attack, rather than something to be<br />feared, is just an unprecedented opportunity to.... KICK THE<br />OTHER GUY'S ASS!!!!<br /><br />Just so, a woman's bullshit and tests are great<br />opportunities to establish respect and dramatically increase her<br />interest in you. In other words, your response to these tests,<br />instead of being, "Oh no.…why is she doing this? What did I do<br />wrong?", from now on will be.... AH, HAH! A RESPECT<br />OPPORTUNITY!!!<br /><br />Look: your attitude has to be that every rude piece of<br />behavior, every silly test of hers is just an unprecedented<br />opportunity for you to establish respect, increase her interest,<br />and intensify her desire to please you. Taken from this<br />perspective, you'll be mentally prepared, and may even find<br />yourself actually looking forward to her trying to pull shit,<br />since you know it's your chance to get her really hot for<br />you!!!! Now, before we go on to some specific scenarios, let me<br />add one other thing: when you do put her in her place. ...<br /><br />IT'S GOT TO COME FROM THE RIGHT PLACE IN YOU!!!<br /><br />In other words, the macho idiot who loses control and<br />trashes the place when his girlfriend comes home ten minutes<br />late is definitely not the example to follow. All he's doing is<br />showing he can't control himself and he just earns the woman's<br />contempt. Notice I'm not saying you can't or shouldn't get a<br />little pissed. Just don't go nutso with a stream of obscenities.<br />(Streams of obscenities are for afterward, when you are in bed<br />with her.)<br /><br />The other thing that doesn't work is acting like a hurt<br />little boy. Whining stuff like, "How could you do this to me?"<br />or, "But you promised!" won't cut it, good buddy. No. You have<br />to come from the calm, but firm "take it or leave it" position.<br />This is all part of displaying the critically important.........<br /><br />WILLINGNESS TO WALK AWAY FROM HER!!!<br /><br />You see, after years of experience and study, I've come to<br />the conclusion that a woman can only experience real passion for<br />you if on some level she believes she could do something to lose<br />you! Understand that when you show this willingness to walk<br />away, in any area of your life, it conveys the message that you<br />are the prize to be pursued, that you are the person of value,<br />and they had better take advantage of the opportunity. This is<br />an attitude that will move you forward in any area that's<br />challenging you.<br /><br />By way of contrast, if you show a non-stop, forever and ever<br />devotion to her, and put up with her crap and ambivalence, then<br />where is that tension of knowing she could lose you? Answer:<br />nowhere! And that's why you get nowhere when you put up with<br />this kind of stuff! If you've seen an initially hot relationship<br />grow ice-cold, this is one big reason!!! Ok. On to some<br />scenarios.<br /><br />Scenario one: You call to ask her out for the first time.<br />Her response is ambivalent, something like, "Well, I'd like to<br />but, why don't you call me later in the week and...." Here's<br />your response: "Let me ask you a question, point blank. Is going<br />out with me something you can take or leave or is it something<br />that you're smart enough that you really want to do that?" Then<br />shut the hell up and listen for her answer.<br /><br />Now, what are you doing here? You're calling her on her<br />ambivalence and letting her know you don't have time to be put<br />on hold. And you're also suggesting she's stupid if she doesn't<br />grab this opportunity.<br /><br />Finally, you're embedding a command (about which much more<br />later in other issues of this newsletter) that she really does<br />want to go out with you. Will this work? Very often it does.<br />It's not what she's expecting, and that always gets attention.<br />Just be as matter of fact and non-hostile as you can.<br />Understatement works best with this one. What if she still<br />hesitates? Well, say this one: You: Look. You have my number,<br />and I'm going to leave it up to you. And you know, if you don't<br />call it's going to be a loss for me, but maybe what you won't<br />realize until after you hang up is, that it'll be a loss for you<br />as well. Ok? Bye.<br /><br />Scenario Two: She calls and cancels at the last minute<br />without offering to do it again at some specific time. (I've<br />heard every excuse in the book, my friend, from "My parakeet is<br />sick" to "I've got to shampoo the rug". Seriously)<br /><br />Her: I can't make it. I've got a rare tropical disease<br />that's causing me to shrink by the hour.<br /><br />You:(dead silence for as long as it takes for her to talk<br />again. Just say NOTHING!!!)<br /><br />Her: Hello? Are you there? What's wrong?<br /><br />You: What's wrong is I can't believe the bullshit I'm<br />hearing.<br /><br />Her: What?????<br /><br />You: Look...you made a commitment to spend time with me and<br />now you're blowing me off. You're disrespecting me and<br />disrespecting my time and I'm NOT going to put up with it. My<br />rule is, if someone makes a commitment to me, I expect them to<br />keep it. If they can't keep it, I need to know at least a day in<br />advance so I can make other plans. Got it? If you can live with<br />that rule, great...if not, sayonara!<br /><br />Then, HANG UP!! Now, this may sound extreme, but man does it<br />work well!!! In fact, she'll probably call back with five<br />minutes and apologize and ask you out!!! I'm not kidding here;<br />I've seen the hardest, jaded bitches go to giggly little girls,<br />eager to please me when I've done this. It throws some kind of<br />switch in their heads. I guess with some people, you don't<br />really get their attention until...<br /><br />You Give Them A Swift Kick In The Ass!!<br /><br />Please note, I’m speaking of an attitude. I am NOT talking<br />about or in any way suggesting or condoning physical violence<br />with a woman. In fact, I am against the use or threat of the use<br />of violence or force against ANY human being, unless there is an<br />imminent threat of violence against yourself or a loved one. I<br />can’t make this too clear. I’m talking about using your mind,<br />NOT your fists.<br /><br />Scenario Three: You go to pick her up at her place and she<br />either keeps you waiting outside for more than ten minutes, or<br />lets you in and then proceeds to talk on the phone for at least<br />that long while totally ignoring you. Wait for her to finish,<br />and as soon as she does say something like this:<br /><br />YOU: Can I ask you a question?<br /><br />HER: Sure.<br /><br />YOU: Are you being intentionally rude to test me, or are you<br />just accidentally acting clueless?<br /><br />HER:(mouth dropping open in shock, unable to say anything!)<br /><br />YOU: Don't ever keep me waiting like this again, ok? I'll<br />always treat you respectfully, but I expect the same. Do you<br />understand me?<br /><br />HER: Uh..uh...yes.<br /><br /><br />The point is this: when women throw this stuff your way, you<br />want to do the unexpected. Don’t put up with it, like a “nice<br />guy” and don’t lose your temper like a jerk. Walk a middle<br />ground of strength, self-control AND self-respect, and these<br />tests will become opportunities to power her straight into your<br />bed.<br /><br />And that certainly beats a poke in the eye, doesn’t it?<br /><br />‘Til next time,<br /><br /><br />Piece and peace<br /><br />Ross<br /><br />P.S. To order the amazing, life-changing, girl-getting Speed<br />Seduction(r) Home Study Course, just go to<br />http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp<br /><br />This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright <br />2004, Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be <br />reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior <br />consent, provided all content, including all links, <br />are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.Dr YJChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15934626372989345861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866183886027454455.post-28982105648716843202010-12-29T08:18:00.001-08:002010-12-29T08:18:53.399-08:007 Tips To Supercharge Your Speed Seduction® Success!Dear Speed Seduction® Student,<br /><br />Part of learning any new technology is understanding some<br />basic principles. So here are some tips that I have found have<br />helped many clients with the initial Speed Seduction learning<br />curve. Remember, a huge part of Speed Seduction is learning to<br />use your language to...<br /><br />Capture and Lead A Woman's Imagination and Emotions!<br /><br />As I have taught again and again, whatever you can get a<br />person to imagine will be perceived by them to be their own<br />thought, and thus will not be resisted. Women especially like to<br />be led by their imagination and emotions! Then, and only then,<br />will they give you the behaviors (love, sex, etc) that you crave<br />and want. Remember, women want good feelings, and all of the<br />tools and language patterns in the Speed Seduction Home Study<br />course are geared toward either doing this or gathering the<br />information you need to do this.<br /><br />Tip 1: The patterns are examples, NOT rules. Many students<br />think that unless they present the patterns to women, word for<br />word, that they won't work or get results. THIS IS JUST 100%<br />FALSE! The patterns are only examples..very GOOD examples..of<br />the kinds of communication that turn women on. They give you the<br />structure. But they aren't meant to be rigidly or exclusively<br />followed. Learn from them HOW they work, and you'll be able to<br />quickly create your own patterns.<br /><br />Tip 2: Women enjoy the patterns, so forget about being<br />caught. So many beginning clients feel like they are doing<br />something wrong...a small minor crime like picking a pocket or<br />stealing a wrist-watch when they approach women to do the<br />patterns! Hey..the patterns are designed to make women feel<br />wonderful! At the very least you are brightening her day and<br />doing her a favor and at best turning her on unlike anyone else<br />ever has! So far from feeling bad, you ought to excited about<br />the gift you are giving her!<br /><br />Tip 3: Practice the patterns out loud! The patterns are meant<br />to be SPOKEN, not read! You can't really master the tonality and<br />tempo unless you practice OUT LOUD! THIS STEP IS CRITICAL!<br /><br />Tip 4: Take a little bit each day! Speed Seduction is like<br />learning a whole new language and a whole new way of thinking!<br />Be fair to yourself and master it all naturally as it comes!<br />Take your time and just do a little bit every day! You'll be<br />shocked at how much you master in just a few weeks time!<br /><br />Tip 5: Pattern Flow Is Important! One of the most crucial<br />skills is knowing how to transition from one pattern to another!<br />In one letter, I explained how to make flash cards to quickly<br />learn how to flow from one pattern to the next! If you haven't<br />done that...DO IT NOW!<br /><br />Tip 6: Understand The Conversational Set-ups! Patterns are<br />hard to use if you don't know how to introduce them and bring<br />them up in conversation! For each pattern you want to use you<br />ought to have at least two ways of bringing it up! I cover this<br />in several of the Newsletters, so if you haven't got them, all<br />the back issues are in the back of the workbook in the<br />Basic/Delux Home Study Course.<br /><br />Tip 7: Practice Your Closing! So many guys have told me<br />they've run patterns but when it comes time to closing the<br />deal..they are stuck! Well, as I have said, if you want a<br />result, you've got to rehearse it! So prepare your closes in<br />advance so they flow from you naturally and without thought when<br />you need them! Along those lines, here are some EXCELLENT<br />closes:<br /><br />Close #1: Why don't we continue this somewhere else and see<br />how much we can enjoy each others company?<br /><br />Close #2: It's too bad you're not the type of person who can<br />imagine being together, feeling and doing all the things you<br />love to feel and do..for all the reasons that make sense to<br />you..but as you think about it just like that..doesn't it just<br />seem that spending some time together is something we have to<br />do?<br /><br />Close #3: So..what steps would we have to take in order to<br />make sure we can talk again?<br /><br />Close #4: I have an intuition..and I don't know if you can<br />imagine this as I describe it..that when we get a chance to talk<br />without time pressures or interruptions...we'll really enjoy<br />each others company..and I'm wondering if there's a number<br />where you feel comfortable having me call you.<br /><br />Piece and Peace<br /><br />Ross<br /><br />P.S You can get your Speed Seduction® Home Study Course at:<br />http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp<br /><br />This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.Dr YJChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15934626372989345861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866183886027454455.post-67453126008465109842010-12-22T09:43:00.000-08:002010-12-22T09:44:29.572-08:007 Tips To Supercharge Your Speed Seduction® Success!Dear Speed Seduction® Student,<br /><br />Part of learning any new technology is understanding some<br />basic principles. So here are some tips that I have found have<br />helped many clients with the initial Speed Seduction learning<br />curve. Remember, a huge part of Speed Seduction is learning to<br />use your language to...<br /><br />Capture and Lead A Woman's Imagination and Emotions!<br /><br />As I have taught again and again, whatever you can get a<br />person to imagine will be perceived by them to be their own<br />thought, and thus will not be resisted. Women especially like to<br />be led by their imagination and emotions! Then, and only then,<br />will they give you the behaviors (love, sex, etc) that you crave<br />and want. Remember, women want good feelings, and all of the<br />tools and language patterns in the Speed Seduction Home Study<br />course are geared toward either doing this or gathering the<br />information you need to do this.<br /><br />Tip 1: The patterns are examples, NOT rules. Many students<br />think that unless they present the patterns to women, word for<br />word, that they won't work or get results. THIS IS JUST 100%<br />FALSE! The patterns are only examples..very GOOD examples..of<br />the kinds of communication that turn women on. They give you the<br />structure. But they aren't meant to be rigidly or exclusively<br />followed. Learn from them HOW they work, and you'll be able to<br />quickly create your own patterns.<br /><br />Tip 2: Women enjoy the patterns, so forget about being<br />caught. So many beginning clients feel like they are doing<br />something wrong...a small minor crime like picking a pocket or<br />stealing a wrist-watch when they approach women to do the<br />patterns! Hey..the patterns are designed to make women feel<br />wonderful! At the very least you are brightening her day and<br />doing her a favor and at best turning her on unlike anyone else<br />ever has! So far from feeling bad, you ought to excited about<br />the gift you are giving her!<br /><br />Tip 3: Practice the patterns out loud! The patterns are meant<br />to be SPOKEN, not read! You can't really master the tonality and<br />tempo unless you practice OUT LOUD! THIS STEP IS CRITICAL!<br /><br />Tip 4: Take a little bit each day! Speed Seduction is like<br />learning a whole new language and a whole new way of thinking!<br />Be fair to yourself and master it all naturally as it comes!<br />Take your time and just do a little bit every day! You'll be<br />shocked at how much you master in just a few weeks time!<br /><br />Tip 5: Pattern Flow Is Important! One of the most crucial<br />skills is knowing how to transition from one pattern to another!<br />In one letter, I explained how to make flash cards to quickly<br />learn how to flow from one pattern to the next! If you haven't<br />done that...DO IT NOW!<br /><br />Tip 6: Understand The Conversational Set-ups! Patterns are<br />hard to use if you don't know how to introduce them and bring<br />them up in conversation! For each pattern you want to use you<br />ought to have at least two ways of bringing it up! I cover this<br />in several of the Newsletters, so if you haven't got them, all<br />the back issues are in the back of the workbook in the<br />Basic/Delux Home Study Course.<br /><br />Tip 7: Practice Your Closing! So many guys have told me<br />they've run patterns but when it comes time to closing the<br />deal..they are stuck! Well, as I have said, if you want a<br />result, you've got to rehearse it! So prepare your closes in<br />advance so they flow from you naturally and without thought when<br />you need them! Along those lines, here are some EXCELLENT<br />closes:<br /><br />Close #1: Why don't we continue this somewhere else and see<br />how much we can enjoy each others company?<br /><br />Close #2: It's too bad you're not the type of person who can<br />imagine being together, feeling and doing all the things you<br />love to feel and do..for all the reasons that make sense to<br />you..but as you think about it just like that..doesn't it just<br />seem that spending some time together is something we have to<br />do?<br /><br />Close #3: So..what steps would we have to take in order to<br />make sure we can talk again?<br /><br />Close #4: I have an intuition..and I don't know if you can<br />imagine this as I describe it..that when we get a chance to talk<br />without time pressures or interruptions...we'll really enjoy<br />each others company..and I'm wondering if there's a number<br />where you feel comfortable having me call you.<br /><br />Piece and Peace<br /><br />Ross<br /><br />P.S You can get your Speed Seduction® Home Study Course at:<br />http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp<br /><br />This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.Dr YJChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15934626372989345861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866183886027454455.post-87127797934275627292010-12-14T11:15:00.000-08:002010-12-14T11:16:17.425-08:00He Planned To Approach 100 Women!Dear Speed Seduction® Student,<br /><br />Every once in a while I get such good emails from students,<br />there's nothing better I can do than to simply let THEM do the<br />talking.<br /><br />What you are about to read comes from the special "Speed<br />Seduction®" customer forum; a list of nearly 2,000 people world<br />wide who have purchased a Speed Seduction® Home Study Course and<br />daily discuss their challenges, breakthroughs, questions and<br />experiments. I’m very proud of this resource I provide, because<br />it lets students not only talk with me, but with each other, and<br />having that community supporting your learning can be a big<br />boost of confidence.<br /><br />With that in mind, here’s a student’s progress report he<br />posted on his plans to approached 100 women. Pay special<br />attention to his brilliant advice on overcoming the fear of <br />“failure”.<br /><br />************************************************************<br />Dear Ross and seduction brothers,<br /><br />From talking with the awesome brothers in the Boston area it<br />became obvious from their comments that the only way to get<br />better at walk-ups is to do a lot of them. So Eric suggested<br />this approach, which worked very well: choose a number of<br />walk-ups to do, and go with the EXPECTATION of getting shot<br />down.<br /><br />That's somewhat paradoxical but that's what makes it work.<br />So I set my goal at a 100. I've already done 50, and this is the<br />half-time report.<br /><br />It's been FANTASTIC (aside from getting enthusiastic phone<br />numbers from women who even have boyfriends and very positive<br />responses). Going with the expectation of let me get another one<br />on my list makes things a WHOLE LOT easier. There's no hurt, no<br />rejection, it's just another notch. "Here goes number 33."<br /><br />INSTEAD of going with the goal of I am going to get this<br />many phone numbers, and feeling good/bad depending on the<br />outcome, go with the goal I'm just going to have fun getting<br />shot down this many times and learning. Then, it's piece of cake<br />to learn.<br /><br />SET a concrete number of approaches you want, and do it. You<br />WILL be successful at doing that.<br /><br />Basically, now, I feel comfortable approaching almost any<br />woman under any condition (the train, a coffee shop, etc.). It<br />really is a LEAP from where I was before.<br /><br />My state is infinitely more solid... and while I can get<br />better with very attractive women, I lead with much greater<br />ease, I deal with most objections right away, and I'm able to<br />instill comfort/ease/trust almost instantaneously.<br /><br />I can only imagine what will happen when I get to 100. But<br />I'm not worried about that... I just need to get 50 more under<br />my belt.<br /><br />(Techniques That Helped Him Do It!)<br /><br />Now here're a few techniques you may want to use: Talking<br />with other SSers: I cannot say enough about this. The Boston<br />team is great, and posting/reading up people's SS postings while<br />doing the above is both encouraging as well as enlightening. I<br />just want to thank the thoughtful people who post quality emails<br />... some of us really appreciate it.<br /><br />Self-reward and -analysis: Always pat yourself in the back<br />after making an approach or every few approaches. It works. It<br />sounds funny but you feel better when you tell yourself 'good<br />job' and give yourself a pat in the back.<br /><br />Every say 5 approaches analyze what you did... think how you<br />could have done it concretely better... and replay in your mind<br />how you'd have done it. DON'T analyze every time, do it every<br />say 5 times.<br /><br />Women are random and if you analyze it each time you'll NOT<br />see the real pattern. No pun intended. :) But the exercise<br />(AGAIN) is not to get better, although you naturally will, but<br />just to get across the X number of getting shot-down.<br /><br />Fear of failure and safety: Early on I sat down and asked<br />myself what in the world was holding me back from approaching<br />beautiful (physically, intellectually, spiritually) women and<br />making their lives sheer beauty, wonder, delight... and I<br />realized... it was just a simple fear of failing.<br /><br />What if I make a fool out of myself? What if I fall on my<br />face? What if I just annoy her? Being someone who's successful<br />at a lot of things he's tried in life this was a BIG one.<br /><br />But then after some thought I realized it was a paradox. THE<br />BIGGEST FAILURE IS TO FEAR FAILURE. If you fear failure, then<br />you're GUARANTEED to fail every time.<br /><br />Think about it. Think about this for long enough and it'll<br />BLOW your mind AND any fear of failure you have out of the<br />water. DRILL on any such feelings with this paradox.<br /><br />If you fear failure, YOU WILL FAIL EACH AND EVERY TIME. It's<br />a complete guarantee. So THAT FEAR IS ITSELF the BIGGEST<br />FAILURE.<br /><br />Secondly, often we want to be 'safe.' But usually, safe from<br />what?? Safe from success, safe from learning how to move women<br />in ways that may astonish us. Do you want to be safe from<br />success? Really? Think about your whole life ... do you want to<br />be safe repeating that SAME pattern?<br /><br />If these are issues for you, I'd try meditate on these two<br />ideas, after some breathing exercises, and you may find, like I<br />did, that meditation affecting your whole life timeline, going<br />to the deepest crevices of your being, and you will be<br />decontaminated from those thoughts in a couple hours or days.<br /><br />Don't be surprised to see your whole physiology changing.<br />This is not just pattern language... my whole body felt it. Use<br />the titanium drill of the paradoxes to destroy those filthy<br />mental microbes.<br /><br /><br />Best regards, Stephen/Angelo<br /><br />************************************************************<br /><br /><br />Ok. Ross here again. This student really got it when he<br />talked about the paradox of fearing failure actually being the<br />biggest guarantee of failure.<br /><br />You see, as I have said before, it is the meaning you assign<br />to things that determines how you will feel about them. If you<br />assign the meaning that you MUST “succeed” with every beautiful<br />girl you see, you are going to drive yourself nuts with all<br />sorts of unneeded fear and stress.<br /><br />When you assign the right meaning to things; that you are<br />just practicing and you are intending to fall on your face, just<br />to practice, suddenly it loses its importance and paradoxically,<br />you do a lot better with a lot less effort.<br /><br />My own personal beliefs about meeting and seducing women<br />are, “Let’s go have some fun with her and find out what she’s<br />like” and “I will either get what I want or learn what I need to<br />in order to get what I want or even better next time”.<br /><br />Try THOSE on for size, and see what happens to any fear of<br />approaching women.<br /><br />‘Til next time.<br /><br /><br />Peace and piece,<br /><br /><br />Ross<br /><br />P.S. Hey...you can jump start YOUR success with women and join our Speed Seduction® online community as well. Membership is free when you purchase your Speed Seduction® Home Study Course! Just go to http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp<br /><br />This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.Dr YJChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15934626372989345861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866183886027454455.post-41409713954740741822010-12-10T08:34:00.000-08:002010-12-10T08:35:26.589-08:00How To Meet Women, Anytime, Anywhere, Part IDear Speed Seduction® Student,<br /><br />One of the most common questions I have gotten in my 11 years of teaching Speed Seduction® is: what are some good and easy ways to meet women?<br /><br />Recently, someone sent me an email, where, among other things, he said, “I hate going to clubs and bars, and at 35 years old, I feel out of place in them anyway.”<br /><br />Now, this is one of the most common questions I get. And it's good to see a guy up there in his 30's still pushing for what he really wants.<br /><br />Personally, as a 45 year old geezer who is as close to ugly as you can get without getting your face banned by the FDA, I still go for and GET women in their mid 20's(occasionally I will pull a 21-22 year old) and I never set foot in clubs.<br /><br />But clubs or not, there ARE master keys for a guy of any age, to be meeting women, anytime anywhere. And believe me, this skill IS important.<br /><br />You see, so many guys who are fixated on one girl, convinced SHE is the woman of their dreams whom they must have would actually dump her in a heartbeat if they knew they could go out and meet 10 hot women that same day they were pining over their 'dream girl"(who probably isn't giving them any anyway).<br /><br />Hey…I'm sorry if I seem flippant here. But the reality is, the skill of meeting women anytime, anywhere, is crucial to avoiding what I call..<br /><br />Relationships By Default!<br /><br />You see, it has long been a theory of mine that MOST men don’t really wind up with the woman they really want. For most men, "dating" is such a form of roll the dice/crap shoot/gambling that they usually wind up settling for the woman who accidentally was attracted to them instead of the woman or women they really want.<br /><br />Does this sound familiar?<br /><br />Hey-I'm sorry if this seems harsh to you, but I call 'em like I see 'em. (And wow, did this ever get me booed and even physically attacked when I used to spout it on talk shows way back in the early and mid 90's.<br /><br />Anyway, enough rambling. What I'm about to introduce you to is light years ahead of anything else out there, primarily because IT DOES NOT RELY ON CANNED LINES.<br /><br />Yes, lines can be useful. Yes, lines can work. And I'll even give you some that are actually quite good.<br /><br />But the key to remember is, with any line, it is the ATTITUDE that will determine how well the line works.<br /><br /><br />The Incredible Power Of Attitudes And Approach Positions<br /><br /><br />Basically then, there are 4 different attitudes or "approach positions"<br /><br />The first one I'd like to talk about is one of my very favorite, and I call it "the Blurt Out".<br /><br />The Blurt Out pretty much is what it sounds like; you "blurt out" whatever is actually going through your mind when you first spot the lady who has your attention, without any "editing" on your part (Ok, here's an exception: if your first thought is, "Damn, I have to touch those breasts!" it's probably best NOT to blurt that out!!<br /><br />What I like about the Blurt Out is that it is coming from a place of vulnerability and sincerity. It's almost like you are thinking out loud, so women tend to automatically react without suspicion and be much more open and friendly to your approach.<br /><br />The Blurt Out also works because you are implying something about your confidence, without saying it. What you are implying is, "hey, I'm a sincere guy, with real guts. I'm telling you what I really think, and I'm putting my head on the chopping block and handing you the axe. Will you be a horrible person and a coward and chop my head off or will you be as cool as me and be open to talking?"<br /><br />The Blurt Out tends to work best with women in motion; either women who are walking directly toward you or women with whom you are walking parallel/side to side.<br /><br />Just as an example of the Blurt Out in action, I once met a very hot 24 year old Canadian chick. I was in a parking structure for a shopping mall. She was walking up the steps, as I was walking down.<br /><br />As I passed her I blurted out exactly what I was thinking in that moment, which was, "Wow..you've got style to burn!" just as if I was thinking out loud. She turned around, walked back down the steps and SHE initiated the conversation and later invited me to go get a beer.<br /><br />That's the key to this approach, again. Just blurt out whatever you are thinking when you see her. Even if your thoughts happen to be shy or fearful, express what you are thinking, as in, "I realized if I kept hesitating, I'd never get to meet you and I'd kick myself for a week. So I had to come up and say SOMETHING. I'm "Your Name Here"<br /><br />Can you see how totally sincere and disarming this approach could be? Especially for very good looking women who keep having all sorts of bullshit thrown their way.<br /><br />The Blurt Out Plus The Implied Compliment<br /><br />With an implied compliment, you don't actually say that YOU think the woman in question is hot or stylish or beautiful. You just imply it by how you state it.<br /><br />Here's an example: walking around an outdoor mall, I spotted a woman who just walked incredibly gracefully. So I walked beside her and said, "It's just that I really admire women who carry themselves with grace and power..so I had to say "Hi"."<br /><br />See the implied compliment? I didn't say it directly, I implied it. I said I admired women with who carry themselves with grace and power. Since I was talking to her, that must mean I think that about her.<br /><br />But HER mind had to fill in the blank and apply the compliment to herself. Since this was an ACTIVE process involving her own mind, it wasn't perceived as coming from an outsider, but rather something she herself thought. And so it goes in without resistance!<br /><br />This is a sneaky way to communicate, but you'll learn a lot more about the power of implication to move the thoughts, imagination, and emotions of women in ways you can't yet dream possible!<br /><br />Approach Position Two: Observation, Comment or Question<br /><br />The second approach position or attitude is what I call the "observation, comment or question". You can combine these with a sense of humor or just do them straight up, and they work best in a setting where neither you or the woman is in motion, so you have some time to make your observation.<br /><br />The biggest advantage with these is they are non-threatening and you don't have to rely on anything canned to fit the situation.<br /><br />(By the way, when thinking of something to say, one of the key questions I'll ask myself is, "What can I notice, observe or intuit about this person that I can use to make a connection? A good way to send your mind in the right direction).<br /><br />Observations, comments and questions of course depend on the situation ongoing, and I usually quickly follow them up with something funny, often a put-on(which is our third approach position or attitude, so we'll get there in a minute).<br /><br />Real life example: I was in a gas station, filling up my car. The woman next to me was putting gas in her giant white Mercedes. I said, "How do you like your Mercedes?" (See..simple question!)<br /><br />Her response, "I love it. How do you like your SAAB?"<br /><br />Ok, she's answering back, so I know at least she's friendly. I said, "I like it."<br /><br />Then I jumped right to a put-on, which is an easy thing to follow up any comment, observation or question.<br /><br />I said, "It's too short."<br /><br />She said, "What? The Mercedes. I think it's pretty long.<br /><br />I said, "No, it's too short."<br /><br />She said, "What is?"<br /><br />I said,"Life…to hestitate…when you meet someone you think is incredibly attractive."<br /><br />She smiled and said, "Thank you!"<br /><br />I then playfully hit her on the shoulder and said, "I was talking about ME!"<br /><br />This got MORE laughter and then names were exchanged, and shortly thereafter, phone numbers as well.<br /><br />My point: observations, comments and questions can be followed up with almost anything and combined with almost anything.<br /><br />A favorite question opener of mine actually combines a question with a compliment, as in, "Do you do a martial art? You carry yourself with discpline and elegance..it's a very rare and attractive trait."<br /><br />By the way, when it comes to compliments to pick up women, I prefer to IMPLY them or combine them with a question and I prefer to strongly compliment a woman on how she moves or her "energy". For some reason these are lot more acceptable and less threatening and perceived as more sincere than direct comments<br />about her looks.<br /><br />Approach Position 3: The Put-On<br /><br />Now we come to my favorite "approach position" the put-on. The put-on is simply a humorous approach where you pretend something to get her attention. For example, if a woman is walking in my direction and is wearing a t-shirt with a logo or design, I will look confused, point at the shirt and say, "I don't get it".<br /><br />Usually, the response is, "Don't get what?" To which I always say, "The shirt. What's it mean?"<br /><br />At this point, I almost always get an explanation from her about the logo or symbol, to which my response is to pretend to disagree and argue in the most ridiculous way.<br /><br />Example: sitting in a yogurt shop, a young lady with very large breasts walked in. She was wearing a tight t-shirt with a slogan that said, "Free the Afghans"!.<br /><br />I pretended that I thought the shirt was about Afghan DOGS. You know..the shaggy haired, long-legged dogs you sometimes see accompanying models in photo shoots?<br /><br />I said, "who is holding a bunch of dogs captive? Why do you want to free them? Do you want more dogs to be strays?"<br /><br />She tried explaining, and I kept misunderstanding. Then I made a joke about being so good looking I didn't need to be smart. Then I introduced myself.<br /><br />If you want a good idea of the overall attitude for this approach, think of Bugs Bunny. Or Groucho Marx. Or Leslie Nielsen from the "Police Squad" movies.<br /><br />One more example of a put-on approach. I was sitting in a local café and seated behind me was a very attractive young Asian woman. I observed that she was thinking very hard, talking to herself, trying to figure out her economics book.<br /><br />So I turned to her and said, as seriously as could, "Could I ask you not to think too loud? You look like a loud thinker, and I have very important writing to do."<br /><br />My friend, who was sitting across from me said she couldn't stop looking at me after that and could not go back to studying! I turned to her a minute later and said, "Look…I asked you nicely not to think so loud! Don't make me call the management!"<br /><br />At that point, SHE began a conversation.<br /><br />There are many, many ways to enjoy a put on. And you can combine it with an observation as in this last example; my observation about this girl was that she really was, "thinking loud"-she was having trouble trying to figure out what she was reading and so she WAS talking to herself, internally, in her head, which is a way of "thinking loud".<br /><br />Approach Position #4: Genuine Intuition<br /><br />The final approach position is what I would call a genuine intuition. This is more rare and harder to do. But did you ever find yourself just looking at someone and you just KNEW that person? Like something deep inside you connected with something deep inside them and you just KNEW them?<br /><br />In this case, when this happens, go with your intuition and tell them what you observe. It's close to an observation, but the difference with this position is, it really isn't something you could pick up with your physical 5 senses.<br /><br />This is advanced stuff that will come in time, so I wouldn't worry about it for now. But as an example, I was once sitting in my favorite coffee place. As this beautiful blonde woman walked in the door, I saw an image of her on stage, singing. So as she walked by I just said, "How long have you been a singer?"<br /><br />It totally blew her away. And a long conversation followed. So if you have a strong intuition, just run with it and give it a shot. It's a bit risky, but when it works it has an incredible impact.<br /><br />Ok. That's it for this issue. Next we'll continue to take up this thread and tell you more great ways to meet women, anytime, anywhere. Until then, <br /><br />Peace and piece,<br /><br /><br />Ross<br /><br />P.S. Want real success and power with the women of your choice, instead of the women you have to settle for? Your Speed Seduction® Home Study Course is waiting for you! Just go to<br />http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp today!<br /><br />This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.Dr YJChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15934626372989345861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866183886027454455.post-67693069999257179502010-12-07T13:18:00.000-08:002010-12-07T13:19:26.092-08:00How To Meet Women, Anytime, Anywhere, Part IDear Speed Seduction® Student,<br /><br />One of the most common questions I have gotten in my 11 years of teaching Speed Seduction® is: what are some good and easy ways to meet women?<br /><br />Recently, someone sent me an email, where, among other things, he said, “I hate going to clubs and bars, and at 35 years old, I feel out of place in them anyway.”<br /><br />Now, this is one of the most common questions I get. And it's good to see a guy up there in his 30's still pushing for what he really wants.<br /><br />Personally, as a 45 year old geezer who is as close to ugly as you can get without getting your face banned by the FDA, I still go for and GET women in their mid 20's(occasionally I will pull a 21-22 year old) and I never set foot in clubs.<br /><br />But clubs or not, there ARE master keys for a guy of any age, to be meeting women, anytime anywhere. And believe me, this skill IS important.<br /><br />You see, so many guys who are fixated on one girl, convinced SHE is the woman of their dreams whom they must have would actually dump her in a heartbeat if they knew they could go out and meet 10 hot women that same day they were pining over their 'dream girl"(who probably isn't giving them any anyway).<br /><br />Hey…I'm sorry if I seem flippant here. But the reality is, the skill of meeting women anytime, anywhere, is crucial to avoiding what I call..<br /><br />Relationships By Default!<br /><br />You see, it has long been a theory of mine that MOST men don’t really wind up with the woman they really want. For most men, "dating" is such a form of roll the dice/crap shoot/gambling that they usually wind up settling for the woman who accidentally was attracted to them instead of the woman or women they really want.<br /><br />Does this sound familiar?<br /><br />Hey-I'm sorry if this seems harsh to you, but I call 'em like I see 'em. (And wow, did this ever get me booed and even physically attacked when I used to spout it on talk shows way back in the early and mid 90's.<br /><br />Anyway, enough rambling. What I'm about to introduce you to is light years ahead of anything else out there, primarily because IT DOES NOT RELY ON CANNED LINES.<br /><br />Yes, lines can be useful. Yes, lines can work. And I'll even give you some that are actually quite good.<br /><br />But the key to remember is, with any line, it is the ATTITUDE that will determine how well the line works.<br /><br /><br />The Incredible Power Of Attitudes And Approach Positions<br /><br /><br />Basically then, there are 4 different attitudes or "approach positions"<br /><br />The first one I'd like to talk about is one of my very favorite, and I call it "the Blurt Out".<br /><br />The Blurt Out pretty much is what it sounds like; you "blurt out" whatever is actually going through your mind when you first spot the lady who has your attention, without any "editing" on your part (Ok, here's an exception: if your first thought is, "Damn, I have to touch those breasts!" it's probably best NOT to blurt that out!!<br /><br />What I like about the Blurt Out is that it is coming from a place of vulnerability and sincerity. It's almost like you are thinking out loud, so women tend to automatically react without suspicion and be much more open and friendly to your approach.<br /><br />The Blurt Out also works because you are implying something about your confidence, without saying it. What you are implying is, "hey, I'm a sincere guy, with real guts. I'm telling you what I really think, and I'm putting my head on the chopping block and handing you the axe. Will you be a horrible person and a coward and chop my head off or will you be as cool as me and be open to talking?"<br /><br />The Blurt Out tends to work best with women in motion; either women who are walking directly toward you or women with whom you are walking parallel/side to side.<br /><br />Just as an example of the Blurt Out in action, I once met a very hot 24 year old Canadian chick. I was in a parking structure for a shopping mall. She was walking up the steps, as I was walking down.<br /><br />As I passed her I blurted out exactly what I was thinking in that moment, which was, "Wow..you've got style to burn!" just as if I was thinking out loud. She turned around, walked back down the steps and SHE initiated the conversation and later invited me to go get a beer.<br /><br />That's the key to this approach, again. Just blurt out whatever you are thinking when you see her. Even if your thoughts happen to be shy or fearful, express what you are thinking, as in, "I realized if I kept hesitating, I'd never get to meet you and I'd kick myself for a week. So I had to come up and say SOMETHING. I'm "Your Name Here"<br /><br />Can you see how totally sincere and disarming this approach could be? Especially for very good looking women who keep having all sorts of bullshit thrown their way.<br /><br />The Blurt Out Plus The Implied Compliment<br /><br />With an implied compliment, you don't actually say that YOU think the woman in question is hot or stylish or beautiful. You just imply it by how you state it.<br /><br />Here's an example: walking around an outdoor mall, I spotted a woman who just walked incredibly gracefully. So I walked beside her and said, "It's just that I really admire women who carry themselves with grace and power..so I had to say "Hi"."<br /><br />See the implied compliment? I didn't say it directly, I implied it. I said I admired women with who carry themselves with grace and power. Since I was talking to her, that must mean I think that about her.<br /><br />But HER mind had to fill in the blank and apply the compliment to herself. Since this was an ACTIVE process involving her own mind, it wasn't perceived as coming from an outsider, but rather something she herself thought. And so it goes in without resistance!<br /><br />This is a sneaky way to communicate, but you'll learn a lot more about the power of implication to move the thoughts, imagination, and emotions of women in ways you can't yet dream possible!<br /><br />Approach Position Two: Observation, Comment or Question<br /><br />The second approach position or attitude is what I call the "observation, comment or question". You can combine these with a sense of humor or just do them straight up, and they work best in a setting where neither you or the woman is in motion, so you have some time to make your observation.<br /><br />The biggest advantage with these is they are non-threatening and you don't have to rely on anything canned to fit the situation.<br /><br />(By the way, when thinking of something to say, one of the key questions I'll ask myself is, "What can I notice, observe or intuit about this person that I can use to make a connection? A good way to send your mind in the right direction).<br /><br />Observations, comments and questions of course depend on the situation ongoing, and I usually quickly follow them up with something funny, often a put-on(which is our third approach position or attitude, so we'll get there in a minute).<br /><br />Real life example: I was in a gas station, filling up my car. The woman next to me was putting gas in her giant white Mercedes. I said, "How do you like your Mercedes?" (See..simple question!)<br /><br />Her response, "I love it. How do you like your SAAB?"<br /><br />Ok, she's answering back, so I know at least she's friendly. I said, "I like it."<br /><br />Then I jumped right to a put-on, which is an easy thing to follow up any comment, observation or question.<br /><br />I said, "It's too short."<br /><br />She said, "What? The Mercedes. I think it's pretty long.<br /><br />I said, "No, it's too short."<br /><br />She said, "What is?"<br /><br />I said,"Life…to hestitate…when you meet someone you think is incredibly attractive."<br /><br />She smiled and said, "Thank you!"<br /><br />I then playfully hit her on the shoulder and said, "I was talking about ME!"<br /><br />This got MORE laughter and then names were exchanged, and shortly thereafter, phone numbers as well.<br /><br />My point: observations, comments and questions can be followed up with almost anything and combined with almost anything.<br /><br />A favorite question opener of mine actually combines a question with a compliment, as in, "Do you do a martial art? You carry yourself with discpline and elegance..it's a very rare and attractive trait."<br /><br />By the way, when it comes to compliments to pick up women, I prefer to IMPLY them or combine them with a question and I prefer to strongly compliment a woman on how she moves or her "energy". For some reason these are lot more acceptable and less threatening and perceived as more sincere than direct comments<br />about her looks.<br /><br />Approach Position 3: The Put-On<br /><br />Now we come to my favorite "approach position" the put-on. The put-on is simply a humorous approach where you pretend something to get her attention. For example, if a woman is walking in my direction and is wearing a t-shirt with a logo or design, I will look confused, point at the shirt and say, "I don't get it".<br /><br />Usually, the response is, "Don't get what?" To which I always say, "The shirt. What's it mean?"<br /><br />At this point, I almost always get an explanation from her about the logo or symbol, to which my response is to pretend to disagree and argue in the most ridiculous way.<br /><br />Example: sitting in a yogurt shop, a young lady with very large breasts walked in. She was wearing a tight t-shirt with a slogan that said, "Free the Afghans"!.<br /><br />I pretended that I thought the shirt was about Afghan DOGS. You know..the shaggy haired, long-legged dogs you sometimes see accompanying models in photo shoots?<br /><br />I said, "who is holding a bunch of dogs captive? Why do you want to free them? Do you want more dogs to be strays?"<br /><br />She tried explaining, and I kept misunderstanding. Then I made a joke about being so good looking I didn't need to be smart. Then I introduced myself.<br /><br />If you want a good idea of the overall attitude for this approach, think of Bugs Bunny. Or Groucho Marx. Or Leslie Nielsen from the "Police Squad" movies.<br /><br />One more example of a put-on approach. I was sitting in a local café and seated behind me was a very attractive young Asian woman. I observed that she was thinking very hard, talking to herself, trying to figure out her economics book.<br /><br />So I turned to her and said, as seriously as could, "Could I ask you not to think too loud? You look like a loud thinker, and I have very important writing to do."<br /><br />My friend, who was sitting across from me said she couldn't stop looking at me after that and could not go back to studying! I turned to her a minute later and said, "Look…I asked you nicely not to think so loud! Don't make me call the management!"<br /><br />At that point, SHE began a conversation.<br /><br />There are many, many ways to enjoy a put on. And you can combine it with an observation as in this last example; my observation about this girl was that she really was, "thinking loud"-she was having trouble trying to figure out what she was reading and so she WAS talking to herself, internally, in her head, which is a way of "thinking loud".<br /><br />Approach Position #4: Genuine Intuition<br /><br />The final approach position is what I would call a genuine intuition. This is more rare and harder to do. But did you ever find yourself just looking at someone and you just KNEW that person? Like something deep inside you connected with something deep inside them and you just KNEW them?<br /><br />In this case, when this happens, go with your intuition and tell them what you observe. It's close to an observation, but the difference with this position is, it really isn't something you could pick up with your physical 5 senses.<br /><br />This is advanced stuff that will come in time, so I wouldn't worry about it for now. But as an example, I was once sitting in my favorite coffee place. As this beautiful blonde woman walked in the door, I saw an image of her on stage, singing. So as she walked by I just said, "How long have you been a singer?"<br /><br />It totally blew her away. And a long conversation followed. So if you have a strong intuition, just run with it and give it a shot. It's a bit risky, but when it works it has an incredible impact.<br /><br />Ok. That's it for this issue. Next we'll continue to take up this thread and tell you more great ways to meet women, anytime, anywhere. Until then, <br /><br />Peace and piece,<br /><br /><br />Ross<br /><br />P.S. Want real success and power with the women of your choice, instead of the women you have to settle for? Your Speed Seduction® Home Study Course is waiting for you! Just go to<br />http://www.speedseduction.net/products/rj87.asp today!<br /><br />This newsletter, and all of its contents are copyright Ross Jeffries. However this newsletter may be reprinted and re-used in any format, without prior consent, provided all content, including all links, are kept intact, proper credit for authorship is given, and the newsletter is given for free, without charge.Dr YJChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15934626372989345861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866183886027454455.post-86523269678160570392010-08-10T13:37:00.000-07:002010-08-10T13:38:18.306-07:00Assertiveness Part 4HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE IN SPECIFIC SITUATIONS<br /><br />Being assertive can assist you to overcome awkward situations. Here are a few examples that can assist you to:<br /><br />SAY "NO"<br /><br />If you do not want to do something, you do not have to do it! Refusing does not mean you are selfish!<br /><br />Do not feel compelled to give a reason.<br /><br />Feel free to strike a compromise. "I can not organize your tag sale and I would be happy to donate some items."<br /><br />EXPRESS YOUR ANGER<br /><br />There is nothing wrong with feeling anger; it is the way it is expressed that can hurt people.<br /><br />Do say something. The other person can not read your mind -- and do not count on sulking to get your message across.<br /><br />Discuss the issue (and that issue only).<br /><br />Stay calm<br /><br />Avoid name-calling<br /><br />Discuss solutions. Compromise.<br /><br />"I am irritated that you are continually late. Is there some reason why you can not get here on time? Maybe we can change your schedule." NOT "I am sick and tired of this, you lazy bum!"<br /><br />ASK FOR ASSISTANCE<br /><br />Asking for assistance is natural and everybody can use it once in a while.<br /><br />Make your request direct, clear and specific.<br /><br />Give the person time to choose if he or she wants to do it.<br /><br />Make sure the person understands that it is OK to say "No." "I have got to move before the end of the month. Could you lend a hand between the 28th and 30th?"<br /><br />GIVE AND RECIEVE COMPLIMENTS<br /><br />If receiving praise is tough for you, then just give a smile, a simple "thank you" or a hug, depending on the situation.<br /><br />Do not insult the person giving the compliment by saying "Oh, is was nothing" simply say "You are welcome or thank you."<br /><br />If you truly feel the compliment is underserved, acknowledge that, and still thank the person. "I was a bit disappointed myself and I am glad you liked it. Thanks for the support.<br /><br />When giving praise, be sincere and specific.<br /><br />PRACTICE YOUR ASSERTIVENESS SKILLS<br /><br />Becoming assertive takes time and practice. Here is a plan that may assist.<br /><br />1. SELECT A SITUATION in which you would like to be assertive. "I would like to tell my friends that I do not want to go out with them every Friday night."<br /><br />2. OBSERVE HOW OTHERS ACT in the same situation. "Dibbie makes excuses. It works, and some people doubt her truthfulness. Tom simply says, "No, thank you. I would rather not.<br /><br />3.REHEARSE THE SCENE by planning what you will say, how you will make your point. Practice in front of the mirror to be sure you look and act confident as well.<br /><br />4. GO DO IT AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS "I do not want to go our tonight. I would just like to stay home and relax."<br /><br />5. EVALUATE WHAT YOU HAVE DONE and be critical and do not be too hard on yourself. "I could improve my eye contact. I was direct, I did not make excuses and it worked."<br /><br />6. DO IT AGAIN .. You can do it!<br /><br />YOU CAN BECOME ASSERTIVE AS NEVER BEFORE <br /><br />SAY what is on your mind.<br /><br />EXPRESS yourself directly, honestly and appropriately<br /><br />RESPECT you own rights and the rights of others<br /><br />Being assertive will make a difference in your life ... A DIFFERENCE YOU WILL ENJOYDr YJChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15934626372989345861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866183886027454455.post-30870404468117179542010-08-09T12:53:00.000-07:002010-08-09T12:54:13.247-07:00Assertiveness Part 3Communication skills are a KEY to being assertive. Become AWARE of:<br />WHAT YOU SAY<br /><br />* Be Specific, not general. "I have taken on more responsibilities - purchasing and supervising - and I think I should be compensated accordingly". NOT "You should give me a raise"<br /><br />* Stay calm, becoming emotional or bringing up the past is counterproductive, i.e., "I had to ask for a raise last year too."<br />HOW YOU SAY IT<br /><br />* Be steady. If you voice is too soft, whiny, shaky, sarcastic or threatening, you will not come across well.<br /><br />* Use "I feel" rather than "You are" in your statements. I feel angry when you do not call to say you are going to be late." NOT " You are such a thoughtless jerk!"<br />WHERE AND WHEN TO SAY IT<br /><br />It is best to be assertive most of the time. And some times and places are not appropriate.<br /><br />The Classic, It is best to confront someone in private rather than in front of people.<br /><br />It is common courtesy to discuss sensitive issues in private.<br /><br />KEEPING THE FOLLOWING 4 POINTS IN MIND WILL ASSIST YOU TO INCREASE YOU ASSERTIVENESS<br /><br />1. Use confident body language<br /><br />-- Look the person straight in the eye, do not look down or away<br /><br />-- Keep your body straight, do not slouch.<br /><br />-- Keep your hands at your sides or in your lap. Do not tap on the table, fiddle with your hair or jewelry, fold your hands across your chest, or point your finger at the other person.<br /><br />2. Be a good listener<br /><br />-- Give your full attention to the person who is speaking.<br /><br />-- Show your interest by responding. Do not simply nod you head in agreement.<br /><br />-- Briefly summarize in your own words what the person said. It helps eliminate misunderstanding.<br /><br />3. Respect yourself<br /><br />-- Realize that you are worthy and have something to offer. Your ideas are important and others can benefit from them.<br /><br />Evaluate your strengths and weaknesses.<br /><br />Recognize those things you do well. Do not discount them because they are easy for you.<br /><br />Take gradual steps toward overcoming your weaknesses. Reward yourself as you improve.<br /><br />4. Respect Others<br /><br />+ Everybody has the right to express feelings and opinions.<br /> <br />+ Realize the difference between assertion and aggression. Keep each clear. There is no need to threaten, punish or false influence other people. If you treat them with respect, they will treat you with respect.<br /><br />YOUR RELATIONSHIPS WILL BE STRONGER, HEALTHIER AND MORE ENJOYABLE WHEN THEY ARE BASED ON MUTUAL RESPECT.Dr YJChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15934626372989345861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866183886027454455.post-6002450278078074282010-08-07T13:32:00.001-07:002010-08-07T13:32:41.099-07:00Understanding AssertivenessTo understand assertiveness let's start with common causes for nonassertiveness:<br /><br />FEAR: of displeasing or hurting others or of being rejected or of making mistakes. Nonassertive people are often oversensitive to other people's feelings. They are afraid that disagreement will be misinterpreted as dislike for the other person.<br /><br />FALSE BELIEFS: that they are unworthy or that they do not have any rights. These people think that if they assert their rights they are being self-centered, or that others' opinion are more valid.<br /><br />LACK OF SKILLS: Some people never learned how to be assertive or were discouraged from being assertive as children.<br />Let's continue with some common causes of aggression:<br /><br />INSECURITY: those feelings of powerlessness. Aggressive people often feel threatened and react strongly thinking they must protect themselves.<br /><br />RELUCTANCE: to give up the perceived benefits of aggression. Some aggressive behavior make work in the short run because it intimidates other people. In the long run, however, the aggression gains only resentment ... not respect ... from others.<br /><br />INEXPERIENCE: in expressing needs and feelings in any other way. Aggression can become second nature in some people.<br /><br />AND PEOPLE can and do CHANGE the way they act ... CHANGING YOUR BEHAVIOR is really up to you! Nonassertive or aggressive actions often are the easiest and result when you put too much pressure on yourself, blowing things out of proportion. Learn to think calmly and rationally.<br /><br />DEVELOP A POSITIVE ATTITUDE that says: It's OK to make mistakes. No one's perfect. I can say "NO" when I need to. I would like to be good at this and if I am not that is OK. I would like it if he went out with me and if he doesn't , that is OK. Asking questions does not make me look stupid and it is the best way to get the information I need. Just because I see it this way does not mean everybody else should agree. If I stand up for myself now and say what I really feel, it will be better in the long run.Dr YJChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15934626372989345861noreply@blogger.com